What to do
Posted Fri Oct 05, 2012 08:24 AM
I find myself more and more attracted to men than women, and i think it has made me relise that i am gay. I have had long term relationships with men, and was engaged to a man before i was married, but i don't think i was ready to settle down at the time i was with them. And my wife knows that i sleep with men as i know she sleeps with women. But we have stopped having sex with each other and i just don't feel the love any more that we had a year ago. I have a guy who i meet weekly, and ireally look forward to seeing him, even if we just chat and not have sex.
I really think it's time for me to realise that i am gay, and tell my friend how i feel about him, as i he has hinted that he loves me, and deep down i love him as well, but i don't like rocking the boat and upsetting others.
What should i do?
Posted Fri Oct 05, 2012 11:05 PM
Posted Fri Oct 05, 2012 11:10 PM
Posted Sat Oct 06, 2012 07:35 AM
But I do think you should perhaps be talking this over with your wife at the very least. If nothing else, you should make her aware of the situation and that might help her deal with things later should you decide to part ways rather than just coming as a total shock to her.
Following said talk, she may wind up deciding to take the matter into her own hands and leave you as a result of this, but in my opinion that would be her right to do so. Some folks can't wrap their heads around the notion of being anything but straight.
Posted Sat Oct 06, 2012 09:34 AM
I would'nt sleeping with over 40 men experimenting and dabbling, but my wife knew about me before we was married and she accepted and infact she said it encouraged her to have fun with other women whcih was something she did'nt think much about until she met me.
As for future plans with the other party, well i told him about my fling with another guy when i was on holiday, and he was fine as we was only fuck buddies before i cam to the crossroads in my life. But the best thing he has said that if the worst happens this week, and i need to move out, i welcome to stay with him, which sort of what we want anyhow.
Posted Sat Oct 06, 2012 10:29 AM