could you date someone with very different political views to your own?
Posted Sat Oct 06, 2012 09:49 AM
anyway, the question is in the title, and i mean date as in like be in a relationship with, rather than just have sex with them.
i definitely couldn't. i feel like my political views are heavily shaped by my values and the type of person i am, and i feel that someone who had very different views would have totally different values to my own and that it wouldn't really go well with me. i mean i'm not saying that we need to be on the same page about absolutely everything but there are a few select issues that i would need the person i am dating to be supportive of. i am a feminist and i'm pretty strong in my feminist beliefs so i could never be with a guy who opposed feminism and women's rights and stuff like that.
Posted Sat Oct 06, 2012 11:25 AM
Posted Sat Oct 06, 2012 12:09 PM
I take my politics very seriously, we would be at war constantly if we were at the opposite ends of the political spectrum.
Posted Sat Oct 06, 2012 12:33 PM
Posted Sat Oct 06, 2012 12:33 PM
I have to say that I'm completely close to the idea of dating a sexist man. I'm also very adamant to dating men who think the poor are an inferior caste.
This post has been edited by Olive: Sat Oct 06, 2012 12:33 PM
Posted Sat Oct 06, 2012 12:53 PM
and she always knows what to say to send me over the edge. but it's not a problem for the relationship.
what i never managed to do is date someone with no political views.
Posted Sat Oct 06, 2012 01:11 PM
Posted Sat Oct 06, 2012 03:34 PM
Good thread SaintPolishoftheNail
This post has been edited by Stroke me Clover: Sat Oct 06, 2012 03:35 PM
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Posted Sat Oct 06, 2012 08:23 PM
If we agreed on everything, it would get boring fast.
Posted Sat Oct 06, 2012 10:43 PM
Interestingly enough, sexism is not only a male realm, there are plenty of women who are sexists. I've met a few and I'm afraid that I find them just as annoying as sexist men.
Posted Sat Oct 06, 2012 11:24 PM
Posted Sun Oct 07, 2012 06:05 AM
Politics is an issue that fast draws out those with hair trigger communication techniques as it doesn't take very long for one to see the seething through even their printed words let alone should one try to communicate orally with them.
Regardless of topic however, good communication requires talents of being a great listener first and foremost and here again is an area where a lot of folks fall down...we tend to hear what we want instead of what is truly being said. Leaving out a few words or phrases can totally ruin or twist the whole idea of what is being portrayed.
With regard to the original post, I think attempting communication around political issues during the dating phase of a relationship would be a great place to start exploring the other person. In very short order, the communication skills...or lack there of...will be plain as day and from that, one may better decide if the person is right for them or not.
I think too that from time to time we tend to forget that having different views on issues be it politics or anything else for that matter doesn't mean to say we have the right to or should be flogging those views upon another person, group or sector. Just because you carry a big stick doesn't mean to say you have the right to hit anyone with it.
So my answer is most definitely and would prefer to date someone with conflicting viewpoints be it political or other wise. A great part of being in a relationship with someone is having a communicator around with you regularly so being able to debate issues is a wonderful thing.
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