Are trannies really striving after femininity?
Posted Tue Oct 16, 2012 05:29 PM
Posted Tue Oct 16, 2012 05:50 PM
But I do believe they are striving to be females. I've seen some that came pretty close too.
Posted Tue Oct 16, 2012 06:18 PM
But if they really want to become women then what does it mean? Maybe they just want to be allowed to smile a lot and act silly - men are not allowed to do that, especially in repressive cultures. Or maybe they want to be admired for their looks alone - for men this also seems to be taboo since more repressive or even conservative cultures deny physical attraction of women towards men, subsituting it with "need for safety" or whatever nonsense.. Or maybe they just want to easily make money just using their appearance as models etc. All these things that women do are cultural things - there have been cultures in the past where men would wear a lot of makeup too.
And then there is another thing - does being a woman mean being attracted to men? Are trannies interested in living this part of a woman's life too or are some of them just "wannabes" who simply admire women and maybe they find difficulty in finding a woman so they decide to actually become one?
Posted Wed Oct 17, 2012 06:01 AM
Posted Wed Oct 17, 2012 06:15 AM
So what does "being a guy between the ears" mean to this FTM person? Does being a guy mean being dominant? Is it not enough to simply be a woman who acts dominant? Our culture has forced stupid stereotypes upon both genders - women are supposedly submissive and men are supposedly lacking in the emotional realm etc. I think all this is bullshit. Women are forced into submissive behavioral patterns by the society since they are trained that this is "right" beginning when they are just little girls while boys are taught that showing emotions is unmanly etc. But all this is just social training. So maybe an FTM person really just wants to be allowed to act dominant and independent while an MTF person just wants to be allowed to wear makeup and smile a lot It is funny that we have to modify our bodies just to be allowed to assume a different "social role".
Or maybe being a man means being attracted to women. Why not simply be a lesbian if you are attracted to women?
Or maybe it means having a penis? Just because penises are cool? So why not wear a strapon?
I think the latter is sort of like cosplay. For example the guys who want to have a pussy themselves just because they like pussy
This post has been edited by mothx: Wed Oct 17, 2012 06:32 AM
Posted Wed Oct 17, 2012 06:24 AM
i can't answer your questions because i am not transgender. there's a lot of information about this on the internet though so some googling might help
i don't think many people would do something as drastic as get a sex change just to wear makeup or be dominant though. it's not an easy road to go down, and in reality i think being a smiling man would receive far less negative attention.
Posted Wed Oct 17, 2012 06:44 AM
Would being a smiling man wearing makeup really be more socially acceptable? Maybe if a TS person has very conservative background, the opposite could be true - they would have to choose between the burden of being an "unmanly man" or simply enjoy becoming a "real woman".
On a side note, in Poland we have an artist named Michał Szpak who wears makeup, smiles a lot, has very long hair, wears somewhat feminine clothes and acts emotional without ever attempting at becoming TS. Similarly, there is a "makeup guy" in Bulgaria named Aziz doing a very similar thing...
Posted Wed Oct 17, 2012 07:33 AM
For me, I am genetically female, but I could be happy either way. I am so much in the middle between masculine and feminine, that no matter which body I had been born into I would have been happy. Honestly, though, I am probably better as a woman. Our culture allows woman to be a bit masculine but demonizes men who are a bit feminine. Now and then I get funny looks for having hairy legs under my dress or something like that, but I don't get hassled nearly as much as a man who wears makeup or enjoys knitting.