advuise pls : converting friend to fwb help me pls fwb
Posted Sat Nov 03, 2012 08:25 PM
Long story short : i am a guy 32 years old and i want some advise on a girl situations ... i have a friend she is not my best friend or anything but just good friends ... we met few years ago and been good friends since then. one of my friend introduce us and we also worked together for few months in a nice small company in 2009, and she was laid off but i kept in touch with her ... recently we been not talking for almost a year or two but just saying hi or txt from time to time ... finally i was able to get in touch with her and she is going to meet me for coffee. i been wanting to ask her to be my FWB or sexual friend but i am not sure how to start the conversations. i am scared she will say no or she wont be my friend anymore. But in same time she is a kinda bigest whore i know she sleeps around with guys and she is almost 41 years old very slim cute lady .. nice heart and clean too but just full off drama and issue and games and lies ..
so how can i start the conversations with her ? how to ask her to be my fwb ?
Posted Sun Nov 04, 2012 03:33 AM
Being scared of a "no" and avoiding the question for that purpose is the same as never doing it at all. If you value the friendship sufficiently so as to rather have it with no sex than lose it for trying, maybe you should keep it platonic. But that's assuming there's no possibility that she'll say no but still be your buddy.
You implied that you had lost contact with her after she was laid off....if she re-initiated contact with you, she must value your friendship on some level..which leads to the next issue...
Um...you might want to refrain from using words like "whore" and "slut" or whatever (unless a female forum member frames it in those terms before you say it). Many chicks on here will light you up for saying that, as will mods...and even guys who wanna look like knights in shining armor will join in the mighty rebuke.... Secondly, whores is a derogatory term for women who charge money for giving up the poon. If she doesn't charge, she's not a pro/escort/hooker/whore, etc. Now...that being said...
If she enjoys a high level of rapid-fire variety in her sex life with regard to male suitors and sex, but hasn't had sex with you but likes being your friend....it seems as though you've been "friend-zoned". If a chick who bangs lots of guys but has a guy friend she "just doesn't think about you like that", then you'll find yourself being one of the few guys she hasn't had sex with. If that's the case with you, you're in the friend-zone. It's not impossible to get out of, but it's a very specific process that requires the ability to do the counter-intuitive.
The only way to find out is by approaching her with what you want. Or.....or.....or.......
This post has been edited by ilyushin: Sun Nov 04, 2012 03:34 AM
Posted Sun Nov 04, 2012 05:14 AM
Posted Sun Nov 04, 2012 10:27 AM
And you want to be a part of this, why?
You're asking for disaster here, even if she is interested. Good luck in whatever you decide, but just from the tone of your post and the vocabulary chosen, I am going to go out on a limb here and say you should save the both of you from pain and disaster by keeping her as a friend only.
Posted Sun Nov 04, 2012 12:49 PM
Posted Sun Nov 04, 2012 12:55 PM
apoligies for my post .. anyway thanks for responses however i am not looking for moral support or do the right thing lol
i was more hoping to get advise on proper topic opning line so this thing go throw
Posted Tue Nov 06, 2012 05:11 PM