Posted Sun Nov 25, 2012 11:08 PM
So the girlfriend and I have started attempting anal and are taking things slow. One night we were doing it doggy style and I had the sudden urge to massage her asshole, and it turns out she loved it! We didnt have any lube so I didn't attempt penetration. Fast forward a week, we're doing the same thing and i start to play with her ass again. Still, we didnt have any lube but I really wanted to try penetration. We ended up using a little bit of spit and I got my pinky inside her. Unfortunately we were under a time constraint and had to finish up. About a week later we picked up some KY and decided to give it another shot. I had her lay on her back and ended up getting my middle finger inside her right up to the knuckle and licked her clit while I moved my finger around in her ass. She came pretty hard. After that, I didn't have any intention on trying to penetrate her with my cock because I thought it would be too big of a step. She ended up asking me to try and I got the head in before we had to stop due to pain. The next time after that I got slightly more, but had to stop again because it was uncomfortable for her.
I then brought up the idea of getting a slim vibrator and some anal lube because of the desensitization. My plan was to use the vibrator on her (without it turned on of course) and take baby steps before getting my cock in her. The vibrator we got isn't very thick, it's probably a little thicker than my middle finger. We got it all the way in the first attempt and my girlfriend asked me to try my cock. So, we used lots of the anal lube and gave it an attempt. We ended up stopping again because it hurt her. This time was different though, she felt a burning sensation for the first time. Could it be the new lube we're using? It's called Up! Anal Gel.
Anyways, are we doing things properly? I'm trying to make baby steps with her and not rush things because I want to make it as comfortable as possible the first time I fully penetrate. Is this the proper way to do things? Should I be using a different lube? Perhaps astroglide, would that be more thick than the KY? We've been trying mainly missionary position with her legs up or spread apart, and she has a few pillows under her bum. Is there a better position?
Thanks in advance!
Posted Sun Nov 25, 2012 11:21 PM
Also, myself and my wife both prefer when the vibrator is on. It's almost harder to get "loosened up" without the stimulation. Stay with just the slim vibrator the next few times. Maybe then move up to one closer to your cock size. Much easier to control too. You'll get there! ;-)
Posted Tue Nov 27, 2012 02:15 AM
We use a generous amount of lube,
I work my way up, first tease her, then use a finger, and while you are going down on her leave your finer in there for as long as you can.
I like going down on her while I'm playing with her ass because it take her mind off it and it allows her to relax. Once a full finger is in there I being to move it around and try to have her get use to it. If at anytime she shows discomfort or pain stop. One thing to also keep in mind is not to quickly pull out, you need to slowly and gently pull out to avoid more discomfort.
Once shes comfortable with your whole finger being in there you can try sliding in your cock, same idea applies, go very slow, allow her to make the call on how much and when. I honestly feel that its more about trust than anything else, she needs to know you wont hurt her and if she begins to trust you she will relax and loosen up.
You can also try getting her tipsy she will be a little bit more relaxed and might feel more comfortable.
Posted Tue Nov 27, 2012 06:34 PM
Vibe turned on is good!
take it real slow and expect it to take a few attempts
Posted Tue Nov 27, 2012 07:01 PM
Posted Tue Nov 27, 2012 08:33 PM
I recommend that you perform oral on her and gently massage her spinchter and when she gets into a good state of arousal apply your anal lube to your index finger and insert it in gently. wait for her to adjust. once she is ready continue oral and massage her perineum with your thumb and the index finger inside her. She'll enjoy this and you're going to feel her sphincters begin to really relax. when she gives you the go ahead insert your larger size plug (don't forget lots of lube) and when she feels the urge remove the plug and begin to penetrate her with your member.
It may take some time and practice but by moving slow you'll get there.:Dsrc="http://www.sexforums.com/public/style_emoticons/default/biggrin.gif">
Posted Wed Nov 28, 2012 01:59 AM
Posted Wed Nov 28, 2012 05:17 AM
Posted Sun Dec 02, 2012 09:42 AM
We had been trying missionary because I read it was the easiest position for her to relax in but it wasn't working too well. About 4 nights ago we had a couple drinks and got a little busy. We were in the spooning position and I pulled her panties down and was about to slip inside her pussy. Right before penetration, she grabbed my cocks and tells me to try her ass. So we grab the lube and apply a copious amount to the both of us and gave it a whirl. The head just slipped right in without much effort. She liked it but I had to take it slow and couldn't go much past my head. We did that for a bit and had to stop because of discomfort. I washed up and then we started having vaginal sex. I brought up the idea to stick the vibe up her ass and have me fuck her at the same time. She LOVED it, I feel bad for our roommates... Only a little though .
Two nights ago we had a few drinks again and decided to give it another go. I'm fairly large so we need to take baby steps, but I was able to get about half way in. She didn't need me to be as gentle this time, I was actually able to fuck her at a decent pace and I could tell she was enjoying it by the noises she was making. We ended up having her lay on her stomach with a pillow under her pelvis. She place the vibe on her clit and I entered her ass. I had to try and mask her screams by shoving her face in to the comforters because she was being so loud! Anyways, we both came at the same time and she had her, what she thinks was, her first anal orgasm.
I'm thinking it was a mix of taking baby steps and working up to it, as well as the relaxation from having a couple drinks before hand.