Posted Sat Dec 08, 2012 07:46 AM
Posted Sat Dec 08, 2012 09:23 AM
First, I think you have to define or redefine what cheating is or isn't. I for one do not buy into a lot of what others perceive cheating to be...since they do not look at the whole picture. Rather, they limit the act to merely sex outside their relationship as cheating with no other possible way to describe it...and that folks is absolutely wrong...in my opinion.
Secondly, I think you have to realize that in many circles, folks engaging in sex with people they know or are close to is not anything new...in fact with all the hype and scare of STD's its more common place in my opinion than others may think.
Thirdly, every relationship is different, and what is acceptable in one may not be in the other. What goes on between consenting adults is no one elses business but their own. Because some may condone the activity and others will not, does not necessarily make it a bad thing.
If sex with another person is accepted by those involved, then I see no case for so called "cheating". If that activity takes place with a friend or friends mate, I see nothing wrong with that either. In fact, it could be a good thing.
If however it is done clandestine, done because while one is getting ample sex at home and just wants to shag anything on two legs and hide it from their partner...than yes...this is cheating...and no...it should never be something engaged in between "friends" or friends mates.
Posted Sat Dec 08, 2012 12:59 PM
Posted Sat Dec 08, 2012 01:45 PM
Posted Tue Dec 11, 2012 05:37 AM
I have sex with other men and women with the knowledge of my guy and he's enjoying the same open lifestyle.
I won't have anything sexual with his friends, unless he wants this himself and specifically asks for it.
He's more than welcome to fuck my friends.
Posted Tue Dec 11, 2012 05:39 AM
Posted Tue Dec 11, 2012 04:48 PM
I define 'cheating' as doing something that you said you wouldn't do: if you have agreed that you'd only have sex with each other, to have sex with any other- under any circumstances- is cheating.
Of course, if you don't accept monogamy, no one has exclusive rights to your body, so you could have sex with whomever, whenever you want- which makes cheating impossible.
Back to my first statement: we agree to monogamy when everything is going well; when we are angry or frustrated, we feel betrayed, and look for revenge. Attacking one's pride or ego seems the best choice, although I feel that if the situation were that serious, I'd rather leave than to hurt someone that I'm going to have to be around him - while enduring the hurt that I've caused, and the backlash that is sure to come...
Posted Tue Dec 11, 2012 05:23 PM
having an open relationship is not cheating because it is not dishonest but i would never want to have sex with anyone other than my husband.
Posted Tue Dec 11, 2012 05:37 PM
Posted Tue Dec 11, 2012 07:24 PM
1/2 an hour. It would be crazy to cheat.
Posted Wed Dec 12, 2012 12:16 AM
This post has been edited by Billy Hung: Wed Dec 12, 2012 12:18 AM
Posted Sat Jan 05, 2013 10:18 PM
If your relationship is messed up - go at it HEAD ON. More than likely you can find middle ground compromise. If not, then perhaps the contract needs dissolution. That old adage - 'YOU CAN'T HAVE YOUR CAKE AND EAT IT TOO' is what's in play. Let is be known that there's a problem that you need to address to IMPROVE your lives together. Then it becomes worthwhile to you both.
I KNOW - I'VE JUST GONE THRU IT - 'CHEATING' just wasn't an option.