How to deal?
Posted Fri Dec 21, 2012 12:46 AM
This is my first posting so here it goes
My sister is a year older than me. I have been compared to her my whole life by everyone including family. She's the wild child that never really grew up. Though my main issue is that we look similar (you can tell we are sisters at a glance) but she is tall and beautiful care free and fun. When I'm around her I feel like the ten year old that has mud on her face. She's stolen two boyfriends from me (one I actually loved) and made out with a few of my ex's. It all makes me feel like they wanted her all a long and just settled for me.
I hate bringing guys home to meet her because she is far more fun than I'll ever hope to be... Even when I dress up and think I look amazing it all goes down hill from there. She could walk in the room with dirty clothes and I feel stupid. When I bring a guy over its almost like I have to compete for their attention. She has always had the spot light and I just want some ideas on how to get over this feeling. I dont like comparing my self to her yet I always do. Even if she has a boy friend at the time I still dont like leaving them alone in a room or she makes me feel like a small kid by telling stories from when I was like five and cried cause I caught my first fish ( which seems cute and all but I love hunting and fishing and being out doors, when this story comes up they always look at me like "are you only doing this for me") Than the stories of any ex I've had that was not exactally the best looking comes up. I hate feeling insucre and I dont want her to have that power over me anymore...
Dont get me wrong I love my sister I just want to know how to deal with this whole thing better...
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Posted Fri Dec 21, 2012 02:44 AM
You will find a man that loves YOU...be patient and it will come. As for your sister - I hope she takes care of herself and dont end up lonely (maybe speak to her)
Wish you guys all the best.....
You can give some feedback over time?
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oh..and the boys that left ya for her? definitely ya betta off without. if its that easy for em to stray, let those dogs find their bitch.
i only know one side of the story, so its just my one-sided opinion.
Posted Sat Dec 29, 2012 06:09 AM
My advice, your sister doesn't sound like much of a sister at all, as someone has said, she seems to be threatened by you, hence the putting you down inftont of others, which in turn makes you feel insecure. I would suggest distancing yourself from her, to clear your head, and to become happy with who you are. If you do so, you'll be in a much better, and much stronger place.
The fact that you have had a talk with her about how you feel, and she has simply shrugged it off as nothing, says to me she is extremely selfish, and not how I would expect a sibling to act towards another.
I hope this situation improves for you GND, must be driving you insane. Feel free to PM me if you want to talk about it.
Posted Wed Jan 16, 2013 05:30 PM
“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”- Eleanor Roosevelt
Posted Mon Feb 04, 2013 05:46 PM
Right now, at this stage of your life, you're getting the shitty end of the stick. But it will turn around. At some point she will need you. At that time is when you make her understand just how much she needs you. You don't have to shun her, but somehow you will be able to get through to her how shitty she was to you. And she'll regret it. She gets to receive the shitty end of the stick at that point.
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