Unclear awnsers from women Should I listen to her/my friend?
Posted Thu Jan 03, 2013 11:40 AM
So I 'hooked up', if that's a way to put it, with a girl. This happend at a new years party, and she stayed over at my place, leaving the next day.
During the evening, I talked to her friend. Wether this was a girl, who wanted something with me, or just a one-nighter.
The friend told me, that it was only a one-night thing. And that I should not, try and get emotional with her.
However I actually enjoyed her company a lot, in a social/talking context. And eventually got her number the day after, however after asking her "if she wanted to do something, again some other time?"
She gave me a very unclear awnser, something along the lines of "I don't know, maybe, we'll see?"
Now, the day after I went out to eat with some of my usual 'gang'. And she was also there, even though all of us, but one. Only just met her, the evening before.
It was rather awkward, and both of us were very quiet, barely saying a word.
Now should I take our common friends advice, and just move on like nothing. Or try and text the girl? and see if it brings something serious with it?
--This was also more or less, my first experience with a woman/girl ever..So it might have a part in my intrest, or something..I don't know.
Posted Thu Jan 03, 2013 01:48 PM
Posted Thu Jan 03, 2013 02:03 PM
Might be, or just that I was more or less the only viable option there. The only other single guy, at the party being extremly drunk.
But your suggestion helped, I'm gonna give it a go. Thanks, might bring me some peace, for now at least.
- And yes, it was 'legit' my first experience. I became shy when I was a kid, and stopped trusting people, due to some conflicts. Continueing to do so, untill 2-3 years ago.
Posted Thu Jan 03, 2013 04:15 PM
Posted Thu Jan 03, 2013 05:19 PM
Posted Thu Jan 03, 2013 05:42 PM
Don't be so hard on yourself. Girls are hardly ever that desperate, and tend to be quite picky even if they are. I would not suggest inviting her for a dinner. It is too formal and most of the time considered as some sort of a date. CoupleXbiwomen's advice on asking if she would be interested in joining you and your friends for some less formal and more fun/relaxing event is spot on. You are just telling her that you and your friends will have some fun together and she is welcome to join in. You will have fun with or with out her so it's a win/win situation. You are someone who has great friends and is fun to be with but most of all you are not coming across as needy. For her, because she said it was just a one-night-stander, is easier to accept this and join you and your friends.
Try and see where it goes. Just relax, enjoy, and most of all have fun.
Congratulations on popping off your cherry, by the way ... ;-)
Posted Thu Jan 03, 2013 09:12 PM
Posted Fri Jan 04, 2013 10:13 AM
Gonna give SirFoggy and CoupleXbiwomen's suggestions, and hopefully it will all work out.
At the very least, it's given me some peace in my head, for now.