Thinking about cheating disabled husband
Posted Tue Mar 19, 2013 06:29 AM
Posted Tue Mar 19, 2013 06:42 AM
Posted Tue Mar 19, 2013 06:47 AM
sounds like you need some steamy sex pronto!!
Posted Tue Mar 19, 2013 06:48 AM
I'm no expert but sounds like you're in a tricky situation, cheating may satisfy your sexual urges, but it's the cost to your marriage if found out too.
Posted Tue Mar 19, 2013 06:49 AM
If you go and cheat on him now, you will look at a life time full of cheating with him because chances are pretty high he won't change anything. And if you love him, that's really something you shouldn't do.
That's why you should talk to him first, and if things don't change and your needs are stronger and you continue to have the feeling to cheat, then it's better to get a divorce.
Posted Tue Mar 19, 2013 07:31 AM
Being a man myself I can imagine how hard and difficult this situation must be for him. Don't even for a minute think he is not painfully and constantly aware of your needs and his diminished capacity.
You say he is trying but this obviously is not enough for you. You say you you love your husband. If you really love your man you should try to see this not only from perspective of your needs. Try, and I mean try, to put yourself into his shoes and understand emotional and psychological hell he must be in. I do sympathize with you but more so with your husband. He is in this difficult position not because of some wrongdoing of his; he had no choice or say in it but have to live and deal with all the consequences. Again, you say you love your husband. Then show it with your actions and support.
However, if sexual needs are stronger than love for your husband you are left with only one real option - divorce. He said no for you to be with another man (men) as he is fully entitled to. Doing anything with out his consent (which you don't and are not likely to have) can't go unnoticed for very long and would only hurt him more than he already is. He doesn't deserve that.
Posted Tue Mar 19, 2013 07:38 AM
Posted Tue Mar 19, 2013 10:49 AM
Posted Tue Mar 19, 2013 11:08 AM
Posted Tue Mar 19, 2013 12:11 PM
Ok this a better and more grown up suggestion than mine!
Posted Tue Mar 19, 2013 09:46 PM
Posted Wed Mar 20, 2013 03:01 AM
From what you have posted he does seem willing to try and do what he can - short of condoning you seeking other men. In any case as others have said I highly recommend against cheating. It is certain to further damage your relationship and my guess is you will feel so quity that the cheating may not even satisfy your sexual urges.
Posted Thu Mar 21, 2013 06:21 AM
if your husband has issues physically because of the accident, could you modify your love making using toys so you get that squeal factor with your hubby using toys on you?
I'm no expert but sounds like you're in a tricky situation, cheating may satisfy your sexual urges, but it's the cost to your marriage if found o
Go get some cock but be really quiet about it
Posted Thu Mar 21, 2013 10:57 AM
Posted Thu Mar 21, 2013 01:38 PM
OP, I hope you do your husband a favor and leave him....and call it a hunch, but I think time will not be kind to you.
Posted Fri Mar 22, 2013 02:53 PM
Posted Fri Mar 22, 2013 02:58 PM
Let's flip the situation , how would you feel if you were the one hurt & you just read these things written by your husband ?
Marriage is supposed to be for better or worse , in sickness & in health .
If your going to do this IMO you owe it to tell him so the divorce can be resolved fairly .
In my world (& yes I an very traditional & old school) adultery ca be a very "messy" thing , considering how I would react to it ........
Posted Tue Mar 26, 2013 08:26 AM