Posted Thu Mar 28, 2013 08:20 AM
Posted Thu Mar 28, 2013 11:00 AM
When he's quiet, I know he's just playing a silence and I listen to his music.
One thing important to me is that the other person speaks as low as possible. I can't take loud people. My ears are extremely sensitive.
Posted Sat Mar 30, 2013 07:50 PM
Posted Sun Mar 31, 2013 04:44 PM
No...but really he is a talker and is just as bad as some women. I have more of the male traits in me whereas I like someone to just get to the point and not draggg it out. Good, decent conversation is one thing but just babbling on is another.
Posted Thu Apr 11, 2013 12:54 AM
Posted Thu Apr 11, 2013 01:47 AM
I think that nowadays people put too much emphasis on talking just for the sake of it. Verbal communication makes for only 10-15%; the rest is made of body language, gestures, and tonality of the voice. So in the end how you are saying something is almost always more important than what you are actually saying. Just as an example, take that (in)famous "I love you" phrase. It means one thing as plain text printed on a piece of paper, almost nothing if said in a flat-robot-like voice, and a whole world if tone and timings are right.
If I am comfortable with a person I can spend hours with out saying a single word, and still feel great. This doesn't mean I can't talk on and on if there's a need for it or I have something important to say. Some of my ex partners were only happy if told "I love you" one million times a day. Which, frankly, would piss the hell out of me. Or if we were to go out, I would have to compliment her hair, her make-up, her choice of dress, her shoes, what-not. Just the fact that we are going out together, and that "I want to fuck you right now and right here!" look on my face and in my eyes says more than words ever could. IMO this is what insecure persons who are not comfortable with who and what they are do. But sooner rather than later this becomes a burden, and all the talk grinds to a halt.
Bottom line, if talking is there just to fill out the air with noise then don't; I am more than happy to enjoy the silence.
Posted Mon Apr 15, 2013 11:05 AM
I'm also very hard of hearing so if someone (or my partner) is talking I need to be looking at them (I read lips). This takes a little more concentration. I HATE to be talked over or to be interrupted mid-sentence over and over - so I do NOT do that to others. My waiting to be sure they are done speaking sometimes causes a lag - which often tells the speaker to keep talking.
I don't agree that more often than not if the man is quiet it's because he is thinking of doing something wrong or because he is guilty of something.
Posted Sun Apr 21, 2013 11:53 AM