Online Couples A topic for couples to discuss their online issues!
Posted Mon Apr 08, 2013 10:58 AM
Some or many may be aware that Selkie and I are in this strange, frustrating online relationship here. I dont think that either of us wanted things to develop as they have done and both were happy to simply have some fun on SF. However, things developed differently and we are now very close to one another emotionally. We both have similar domestic situations that mean, while we are married, we live in sexless relationships. That is what brought us both, independently, to this place.
However, we have both faced issues on our journey to where we are now. Mine is constant suspicion and jealousy. Selkie will make her own comments on her position. I was not always like this, but because of the nature of this place, it is hard for me to control that.
The purpose of the topic is to provide members with a unique thread in which they can be open about their issues, seek support and advice from others and simply to be able to identity with others and their issues so that they do not feel isolated in the issues that they experience. It is in no way restricted to myself or Selkie's issues.
So, this pretty much kicks off this thread and I hope encourages others to open up a bit and raise their own concerns and worries. It has been quite difficult bringing myself to post this as it draws attention to both myself and Selkie and this is not the intention.
I hope others will join in, but understand the reservations that many will have in going public - Selkie and I are both taking a risk in doing this ourselves, after all! If the thread is considered to be worthwhile and attracts enough attention, I could ask the Admins to pin it to the top of the Relationships Forum for ease of access. So let me know what you think, and please join in!
Posted Tue Apr 09, 2013 03:22 AM
First of all, this not all a problem, but just a misconception .
You lack of self-confidence may be caused by the following:-
> Seeing other men (maybe with a better physique, attitude, personality etc.) and feeling inferior. In short, you feel : "Oh, I wish I was as cool/hot as him!".
> You think too much in the negative direction.
For the first, all I can say is : You should not give a DAMN about them..cause everyone is unique, and that's how life is.. .
For the second, you need to concentrate in your GOOD/POSITIVE side. Think of the brilliant things you have and others don't and make yourself happy (but NEVER be self-righteous).
In short, kick out your pessimism and let the OPTIMISM begin!
Posted Sun Apr 21, 2013 09:49 AM
Posted Sun Apr 21, 2013 10:34 AM
There are ways to go behind the others back, and that is one of the problems to overcome.
It is the reason that I started this thread as I think there are a great number of problems online that couples encounter.
I thought that there would be more participation in this thread and am surprised that has not been the case.
I have asked that it is unpinned and now allowed to drift.
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