About a year and a half maybe 2 years ago we had a week break and I started talking to another girl who was always strictly a friend.
During that time she was having some pretty bad mental health problems, she would cut herself, cry about everything, and her bf broke up with her.
Being the friend that I am. I was helping her out, not with money but with advice. I was giving her someone to talk to.
After about a week she decided it would be a good idea to kiss me, and she did. For a second or 2 I thought whatever and then said I have to go...
I was so upset that she did that (my fiancée and I were not engaged at the time) and I didn't stop it immediately. I think I was just more shocked than anything.
Fast forward to now. Right after it happened I told a close friend of mine who said he wouldn't say anything. Slowly over the last 2 years I found out that he has told a few people including one of my fiancées friends. When he asked me about it I said whatever you heard is not true and your hearing this from a person who can't go through a work day without drinking alcohol. (He's telling people I full out cheated on my fiancée, which is not what I told him and I told him because I was so upset.
That was it and it was over.
Here's my dilemma. My fiancée knows this girl and knows that she gets around a lot. It's really stressing me out and I haven't said anything nor do I want to. Not to hide the fact that it happened, just so that I don't have to see her upset as its really painful for me to see. I feel beyond terrible. Just so you all know, I have cut that friend from my life and am sad because we always got a long no problem, I have very few friends and even fewer that I can trust now.
Bright side: we're putting our deposit down on our wedding tomorrow and I couldn't be any happier knowing that I found the right person for me. I'm not perfect nor is anyone else but we just get a long very well. Even though we've had our issues in the past but who hasn't.
I know the right thing to do is to say it happened however would it very bad to just never say anything and just count that friend as a loss? In the end no matter how much people have tried to help her she just doesn't really seem to want the help and she's never happy unless she's in a relationship.
This post has been edited by Neverbeenhappier: Sun May 26, 2013 02:50 AM