life After a Hysterectomy
Posted Thu Jun 13, 2013 07:55 PM
So Its been 9 months since my surgery. The doctor said I would feel like a whole new woman. Wish he would of told me I wouldnt be happy at all with the new woman.
I feel like shit 99% of the time. I have total hellish mood swings, rages then terribly sad. I am so tired all of the time I feel like I could fall asleep at any moment of the day and this includes driving to and from places. My house looks like hell and I cant even stand to be in it yet I cannot force myself to physically do what needs to be done. I am barely getting by doing my job at work, people are used to me being a powerhorse and are constantly asking me if im ok and whats going on. by the time i get home i practically collapse. My son helps out a lot and motivates me to do what I need to do just to stay on top of the basics, but as far as thorough cleaning..hahahahhaha, yea thats not happening. I would rather stare at the dust then dust. Havent pulled my fridge stove washer and dryer out to clean since before the surgery.
This is totally not me, I have always being a worker and a go getter
the mood swings are actually very scary for me and I thought I was through this..I had some really dark moments a few days after the surgery then that all went away. now its back with a vengeance. Not really sure what to do about it either but it would be really nice to be happy for one full week at a time instead of a few hours here and there. I used to be very laid back and easy going, now i feel like im on edge all of the time.
no sex drive at all. its gone. my horny button is gone. my other half can get me going but I never get myself going on my own. ever, so freaking weird.
I took hormone patches for about 2 months and I hated them so I quit using them. I went on a herbal supplement for another 2 months and then i ran out and just never replaced them. I didnt feel they was making a difference at all.
My internal temperature is Satans basement. I have to have a fan on me almost 100 % of the time or else im sweating like I am in well..satans basement.
I tried to take vitamins. I started out with a multivitamin and flinstones with extra iron and my vitamin D I take all the time as it is. That made me extremely tired, even more then i already am. I fell asleep twice at work, while cleaning walls mind you and fell asleep on the drive home one night. I also noticed when i cut myself (I am very clumsy and shouldnt own a knife but i have to have it for work) the blood clotted up immediately. So I quit all the vitamins but my vitamin D. that helped some. unbelievable that a supplement thats suppose to give you more oomph totally went the opposite way.
I have gained weight and that scares the shit out of me as im a curvy girl anyway and I have no room to gain anymore weight at all, if anything I would love to lose about 50 lbs. so now I am gettin into the awful habit of not eating again. I know that dont work I have done this and wound up in the hospital before but anytime I look at food all I can think is..thats just gonna make me fatter and I cant force myself to take a bite.
I am just at a loss what to do. I feel like im not myself anymore and that makes me terribly sad as I was comfortable with who I was. I dont like this new me at all.
any other ladies have experience with this that can help I would be extremely grateful.
Posted Thu Jun 13, 2013 08:59 PM
Posted Fri Jun 14, 2013 09:31 PM
I have not went back to the doctor. he is a awesome baby doctor..delivered my first kid as a matter of fact but as far as gyno lady side..eh not so much so. hes just like no big deal. lol
and yea I feel a lot of the time that no one understands what im goin through at all.
Posted Thu Jun 20, 2013 09:00 AM
Perhaps you should try the hormones again. The ideal is to take blood tests during months of hormonal replacement, till you get the good prescription. It has to be adapted to your needs and it can take months to get it right. I don't have this experience, but my mother went through it. Now, she's doing much better. It took months to get the right prescription, but it was worth the bother. She'd have a blood test every two months. Then, one every six months. Her physician would adapt the hormones. It's trial and error.
The problem is that, if you've tried the hormones right after surgery and only for a few months, your body didn't have time to adapt to it, nor your doctor had time to test you (blood work) and adapt the hormones to you.
There is something that may be helpful to you: sports. Because of the effect they have in your brain (the release of good chemicals).
Did you have your thyroid checked? The way you're feeling could be also the effect of a thyroid nor working as it should.
I hope you find a solution. Hang in there.
I'm sending a pm to you with an internet site where you'll find more women in your situation. Perhaps some discussion there will be able to help you.
Posted Thu Jun 20, 2013 09:00 PM
thats another thing. i used to never complain about shit and now i feel thats all I do :/
Posted Thu Jun 20, 2013 09:50 PM
Posted Mon Jul 01, 2013 12:18 AM
My vacation time comes due next month. once i have that I will start trying to make appts and use my vacation for them as my job has really been tolerant enough with me missing days
Posted Tue Oct 01, 2013 11:34 AM
So here is my story:
I’m 60 and had a TAH-BSO (complete hysterectomy with removal of ovaries) in 1987 when I was 34. I managed the “typical” menopause symptoms of hot flashes, night sweats, vaginal health, moodiness, sleeplessness, etc. with different estrogen pills. However, no doctor ever mentioned the loss of sex drive or the many, many benefits of testosterone. The result? No libido. I lost all my pubic hair in front within 3 years of my hysterectomy and I didn’t understand why. I also got old. I looked old, acted old, dressed old and was very reserved and just not a vibrant person. Then in 2002 came the estrogen scare. I tried to get off of the estrogen and couldn’t due to extreme hot flashes and night sweats.
I had moved to Arizona in 2000 and in 2003, read a newsletter from my gyn about Bioidentical Subcutaneous Hormone Pellets. These tiny pellets are made up of either estrogen or testosterone. One of the symptoms of low testosterone was the loss and thinning of pubic hair. That caught my eye so I read the list and checked off almost every one! I finally had reasons for the way I was! I made an appointment with her to discuss them. After 30 minutes of discussing them, she offered to insert them. I was a bit (ok, a lot) scared but thought I had nothing to lose and everything to gain. And so began my incredible journey.
In the beginning I got themevery 12 weeks. Now I can go 4-6 months based on blood labs and symptoms.
It's a simple office procedure. My gyn numbs an area on my hip, makes a small incision, inserts the pellets using a trocar, puts on steri-strips and a Band-Aid and off I go! I get 2 estrogen pellets which are 25mg each, and 2 testosterone pellets of 37.5mgs each. I will get these pellets as long as I am able. Hopefully till I die.
I have to say they drastically changed my life for the better. First of all the menopause symptoms went away. The absolute best was the increase in sex drive. Desire, arousal, lubrication and orgasm went from nothing to WOW! 48 hours after getting them, I woke at 2am and felt like my clit had taken over my body! I had to get up and masturbate for the first time in 16 years. Not only did my sex drive come back in full force, but my self-image increased, my confidence came back and I'm more outgoing. I look years younger (and have photos to prove it), feel younger, lost weight and have never felt better in my life!
Women who are in natural menopause have to use progesterone to protect the uterus. I do understand that it’s a bit trickier to get balanced in natural menopause over surgical. But it CAN be done.
It has become my passion andmission to help women understand there are options for an incredible life afternatural or surgical menopause.
Men can also get testosterone pellets. They are FDA approved for men but not women. Go figure.
I have lots of information so ask away or send me a pm.
Posted Tue Oct 01, 2013 09:33 PM