Posted Thu Jul 11, 2013 01:57 AM
A lil background on the situation. I have been with my girlfriend for a year and a half now and we both attend college during the year about an hour to an hour and a half away from each other. And reciently I find myself less attracted to her, she still makes me horny just not as much as before. it's hard to imagine not being with her but I've been finding myself thinking about being with other women more and more, and wondering what it would be like to be with someone else since she is basically the first person I have even been in a sexual relationship with I have no experience with other people. I love her so much but I'm wondering if we should take a break cause I don't want to keep wondering and have it come between us later on in the relationship.
I know I'm still young and dumb but I really appreciate your advice. She means a lot to me and I want to make it work
Posted Thu Jul 11, 2013 02:25 AM
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Posted Thu Jul 11, 2013 02:27 AM
Posted Thu Jul 11, 2013 03:02 AM
I love her so much
I don't want to keep wondering and have it come between us later on in the relationship
She means a lot to me and I want to make it work
Too many conflicting statements / emotions here. You both are young, she's attractive, and no wonder she still makes you horny. I'm guessing pretty much any other young and attractive girl would do the same for you. Thing is you have figured out that there's plenty of other fish in the sea, not just one. And you want to go 'fishing' to find out what it feels like and what the taste of that other 'fish' might be. What you are saying is that you would like to go out and have a taste while at the same time keeping the relationship with your girlfriend. You want to have a taste so that this doesn't come between you later on in the relationship. Really?
There are several problems with this. How many different 'fishes' you want to have a taste of? 1, 5, 20 ... 100? What would fill your 'appetite'? Once (and IF!) it is satisfied what is there to say you will still be happy with the 'taste' of your girlfriend? Does your girlfriend knows about this? What's her angle? And how exactly do you intend to do that without her knowing about it? Not that I am saying you should or shouldn't do it, just don't see it ending without people getting hurt. Not to mention that I find the idea of fucking other girls while in a loving relationship questionable.
What would I do if in your shoes? I would tell my girlfriend what the 'problem' is and what she thinks about it. If she is not happy with the 'solution' (as I imagine she wouldn't be) then I would have to make a choice. Stay with my girlfriend, continue with just one 'flavour', and continue wondering what would it be like or split up, go 'fishing', and find it out myself.
Young men often confuse sexual attraction to love, and I am thinking that you are just one of those. If you really were so much in love with your girlfriend you would have none of those doubts.
Soooo ... choices, choices ...
Posted Thu Jul 11, 2013 07:35 AM
OP I think it is the fact that you two are apart during the school year that is creating this problem. You are only an hour and a half away but how often do you two see each other while school is in? What exactly is making her less attractive to you? Being a young guy in college with many young females around would of course be tempting. I think you may be going through a phase where you feel like you are missing out on something because you have only been with one woman, and if your college experience was anything like mine you constantly hear people talking about hooking up. Trust me you are not missing anything. If you really love this girl and want to be with her I'm going to say forget about the nsa fucking. You have to ask do you value your relationship more or meaningless sex.
Posted Thu Jul 11, 2013 09:24 AM
Thanks for the input everyone you really let me see what's more important.
This post has been edited by Relyingchicken: Thu Jul 11, 2013 09:43 AM
Posted Thu Jul 11, 2013 10:11 AM
Posted Mon Jul 15, 2013 01:40 PM
She always said that it was during school, when they were apart, that she really wondered if she was missing out. She had guys that she was attracted to asking her out, or hitting on her at bars or parties. She wished that she had talked it out with her boyfriend and expressed her feelings, instead of breaking up. I think communication is the key, letting her know how you feel. You never know, she may feel the same way or have the same desires to see other guys. Just be ready for whatever the result is.