Dating Advice Needed
Posted Fri Jul 19, 2013 08:47 PM
Posted Fri Jul 19, 2013 09:36 PM
We didn't meet on a dating site. Instead, we met on MySpace. We sent messages and e-mails for about a year or so then started having phone conversations for maybe a month before we met in person. We met and ended up spending most of the weekend together - no sex, but we did fool around above the waist a little bit. The next week, we went out again, and we've been together ever since. It's a unique story, I guess, because I never thought I'd meet my future husband online.
Now, I'm not saying the same thing will happen to you, but I totally understand how you have feelings for him after talking for so long, even though you've never met. I developed an emotional connection with Mr._C. before we ever met in person as well.
If you're comfortable with him, it's probably a good idea to at least bring it up and see if he's on the same page. If he's interested in meeting you in person and has talked about that with you, then I would assume he at least likes you. He might be dating other people, which is fine for now, but after you meet (once you can finally arrange it), he may end up wanting to date you. Just understand that long distance relationships certainly are difficult. Mr._C. and I had to do it for about two years, and I can tell you that it's not ideal. We got through it by talking on the phone every night before bed. There are plenty of ways to do it now, and since you're so close, it may not be as hard as you think. Mr._C. and I were five hours apart. I could make weekend trips, but I never saw him during the week because he was in a different state, and when I did see him, it was usually two weekends a month.
Posted Sat Jul 20, 2013 01:55 AM
This post has been edited by The_Dark_Prince: Sat Jul 20, 2013 01:56 AM
Posted Sat Jul 20, 2013 03:58 AM
If I was him, we would have met within a first month. If I were you, I would give a serious thought about what is really going on here. I myself wouldn't feel very comfortable if a chick I have never met in person starts talking about life together, buying a house and stuff like that. Actually, I wouldn't feel comfortable at all. But her saying she likes me and wants to meet would not make me uncomfortable, and most definitely would not scare me away. If you tell him how you feel, and that scares him away then all you thought to have was nothing but an illusion.
Talking to someone for that long can indeed lead to certain feelings. How genuine those feelings are is a different thing altogether. Kindness and politeness are very often taken for more than they really are. People see things that sometimes simply might not be there.
Posted Sat Jul 27, 2013 01:33 PM
I saw somebody off and on for years who lived an hour and twenty minutes away. We both had very busy schedules, particularly on his end. It was frustrating but we never went more than a month or two without meeting up in some way, shape, or form. Technically we weren't dating, either.
An hour isn't much of anything. Either one (or both) of you are really hesitant, or something isn't adding up. If you want this badly enough, you'll make it happen. Unfortunately you won't be able to do that without him being on board 100% as well.
Posted Sun Jul 28, 2013 08:46 PM
If this person does not show the same interest as you, you should think about going out with someone else maybe he's doing the same.