Straight Men and Anal Pleasure
Posted Mon Aug 26, 2013 04:27 AM
I have recently started to do some anal playing in private. My wife has no idea. I am very tight and can't get anything with any real size in yet, but it feels amazing still. It shocks me how much I like it. Here's the problem though - I don't know how to get my wife involved.
I've started directing her hand there during sex, but she just rubs my anus a little and pulls away. I pushed harder one night and actually got her to stick a finger in while giving me a blow/hand job. She barely did though and I cam quickly. She was surprised and asked me if I was turning gay. I just kind of brushed it off and haven't pushed again.
She doesn't understand (nor did I until recently) that anal play can be pleasurable (she doesn't like anal penetration herself, though she likes me to rim her). It has nothing to do with being gay, but she sees it that way. I'm not sure how to even try to get her to understand. I would love to eventually work up to her using a strapon on me. But I don't want her to think I'm crazy and in anyway less manly either.
So how did some of you other married guys deal with this (if you had similar problems)?
Posted Mon Aug 26, 2013 06:55 AM
If you don't want to turn your wife off to it, make sure that you are clean back there and she doesn't get any surprises that will turn her off to it.
As far as anal exploration in private, that is the best thing. You should be fully aware of the new great feelings and sensations that are involved before letting her have a go at it. Does your wife have dildos that you could use. Start off smaller and get yourself some new toys if you need.
There are a books on the topic of anal sex and male anal pleasure, including prostate stimulation and health. Leave the hangups and taboos behind and discover a new world of pleasure for the both of you. I had to get my wife to understand by getting her to explore these new anal feelings on her own body. Does your wife enjoy anal, or is that off limits. If she does, your halfway there. After my wife got into an anal frenzy weekend, she ended it by telling me that she was going to give me my wish and fuck me in the ass with a dildo. That led to all sorts of fun after that.
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I agree totally. Getting to know what feels good to you and getting to understand all of the ASSociated feelings and sensations is key to anything anal.
We use the hand held dildo maybe 20-1 over the strapon. When she does use the strapon, she can fuck me just like I used to fuck her. Either way it goes, the result is a deep prostate orgasm that rocks me.