lost love back in picture
Posted Thu Oct 10, 2013 02:41 AM
Posted Thu Oct 10, 2013 06:33 AM
Posted Thu Oct 10, 2013 07:27 AM
Posted Thu Oct 10, 2013 01:08 PM
Posted Thu Oct 10, 2013 01:29 PM
He was still married, mine was in the death throes, i blogged about it on here.
We had an incredible night of sex and some brilliant flirting etc afterwards, if i'm honest though, we would never be suited and whilst one night can recreate your youth and the feelings etc from way back then, it isn't reality. Its rose tinted and In my opinion, one night of sex isn't worth potentially throwing your marriage away for.
You can never be friends with benefits as that rosy glow of first love will flicker again and your feelings will get stronger, thats what happens and thats what happened in my case too.
Its very difficult to turn that off when it happens.
We still see each other as his sister is my god daughter, we don't see each other in that romantic way as we had to put it right out of our minds and stop before something dangerous started.
He has just split with his wife on the day that I found out I was pregnant to my partner now. We talked a few weeks ago and he said that it was funny how everytime he was single, I was attached and vice versa. He was saying that we were never meant to be and he was right.
I don't harbour any feelings for him, i'll always cherish him as my teenage sweetheart, my first love, the first boy to ever break my heart and the only one who ever has.
I have wondered what it would be like if we were able to be together, he has too and we talked about it when I first moved back to Northern Ireland. We knew that our memories were probably better than what reality would be like and although we are madly attracted to one another, its just chemistry, not something that we could make last longterm.
Please don't go there, its a super strong urge, I remember it well and I'd have walked over coals to have met up with him. I didn't need to as it happened but if you value your marriage, then just don't do it.
I'm here if you want to talk further about it xxx
This post has been edited by Duchess: Thu Oct 10, 2013 01:32 PM
Posted Fri Oct 11, 2013 12:34 AM
Do what you will. Come what may. Good luck.
Posted Fri Oct 11, 2013 02:16 AM
Posted Fri Oct 11, 2013 09:42 AM
Posted Sat Oct 12, 2013 01:39 AM
Posted Sat Oct 12, 2013 12:11 PM
I stopped here, have some respect for your wife and leave it be, if you're going to cheat you might as well get a divorce. Don't want to? Then you don't cheat.
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Posted Tue Oct 15, 2013 09:24 AM
what you talk about is betrayal to such a level!...
Planing for months, and not only a fuck, but wishing for a situation that would last (friends with benefits, you say).
Why not do it clean? Talk to your wife you're frustrated and that you'd like to fuck other people. Tell her you're going through a crisis. If it's only a matter of time you astray (you say something like that), then, it's either coming clean, or doing that kind of betrayal that will hurt your wife like hell.
I find it selfish in a way the word selfish can't describe, actually. I find it cruel. It is cruel. You probably know it is. You're rather stick a dagger in your wife's heart than have the courage to talk openly with her BEFORE the deed? You'll hurt her anyway.
How can a person be so cruel to a friend/wife? I couldn't do it to an enemy, if I had one.
Posted Tue Oct 15, 2013 11:54 AM
Please don't put yourself and your wife through the heartache. It is two marriages that are going to end up destroyed if things go wrong.
If I was in your wifes shoes, I would be devastated to know what is going on and no matter how careful you think you are being, it can and does go wrong.
Please try to sort out your own marriage and cut contact with your first love.
I've said already, I've been there and know the excitement etc but the real life just isn't the same. Its not worth laying your marriage on the line for.
this first love, you say you want to have her in your memories, she already is a memory that you have. Reading your post again makes me see things a bit more clearly too, she has other fwb's and perhaps that is making you feel a bit jealous, why them and not you?
she sounds flaky if I'm honest. She is most likely telling all of you guys the same story.
This post has been edited by Duchess: Tue Oct 15, 2013 11:57 AM
Posted Mon Oct 28, 2013 07:33 PM
Posted Mon Oct 28, 2013 07:55 PM
Posted Mon Oct 28, 2013 08:25 PM
Do what you will. Come what may. Good luck.
aye, a mundane marriage ....boring, re kindling old flame...wont work
its a nice warm thought/fantasy ...
duchess 's post...is spot on, but, its gona need a lot of hard work....good luck.