What is it some men don't like about clits? Campaigning for clits all over the world!
Posted Mon Jan 13, 2014 01:36 PM
I urge you, oh SF men, don't make women feel inadequate. Most women (not all) who do feel pleasure during sex do so mostly (mostly, not necessarily exclusively) from clit stimulation.
Clit will be a privileged part of a woman's pleasure equation. Again, there are exceptions, surely. Some women will squirt golden chocolate from having their elbow kissed... I suppose... ...
I think so much porn with women cumming from having sperm spurting on their faces separated the dots from the i's.
But, really, many women have so many hung ups (spelling?) about sex, if you keep looking for some caldron at the end of some rainbow, you'll ruin the little enthusiasm (some) women have for sex.
Lots of women expect to get an orgasm when the guy sticks his cock in their pussies. But it doesn't happen. And the guy keeps trying, and the woman keeps trying. And it doesn't happen... and she gives up. She may even know the clit is a sure thing to get an O, but may also feel self-conscious to beg for a touch where it matters. And many find it embarrassing to touch themselves during sex. They may also think it'd make the guy think he's inadequate, or she'll look less appealing if she needs... that... ...
Then, if she wins against some inhibition and liberates herself for pleasure... super... till one day the guy decides that, you know, she should be able to cum from some other spot.
What would happen, men, if women decided you should all cum from elbow stimulation? Imagine your cocks being neglected. Once... twice... thrice... how many times till frustration would "teach" you masturbation is better and fuck women and their elbow fixation?
Like I've said in another thread, if a man has a problem with my clit, he has a problem with me.
I can make a guy cum from prostate stimulation. Does it mean I should start neglecting cocks? Some men don't wanna have my fingers up their asses. Think of it. Your cock is like our clit. Most of you like it stroked, licked, sucked. You love when it gets attention. Why should a clit be different? Even guys who like prostate stimulation also like to have attention given to their cocks.
Put some of the time you put on searching golden caldrons into learning to properly please a clit. A woman's clit could be your best ally ever. And I can tell you something: few are the men who know how to deal with a clit. Very few! I'd say less than 10% of lovers I've had knew how to properly treat a clit.
Posted Mon Jan 13, 2014 01:56 PM
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Posted Mon Jan 13, 2014 08:54 PM
There are guys that have never done it and are willing. Sometimes I think women need to be a little bit more open about other guy's sexual abilities. Nothing to take away from alien's post but that's why I'm so "inadequate" to some women. Some women take that as not wanting to do that. On the contrary...
Posted Tue Jan 14, 2014 01:42 AM
On top of that, I didn't like toys. They were my enemy. Even when I watched real porn (webcam and homegrown) and realized 70% of women cum mostly from clit. I learned to use my tongue and fingers. Even still I felt a way towards vibrators. Inadequate. Why am i needed.
Porn and the male ego are to blame.
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Posted Tue Jan 14, 2014 07:38 AM
I'm one of the many women who do not enjoy vaginal penetration. I know how to orgasm, and I will tell any partner who cares to listen. But I get annoyed with the ones who think if they just keep messing around in my pussy long enough, eventually I'll start to like it. And I get really annoyed if they claim they are doing it for my pleasure.
Me: I don't care for that.
Them: You will, let me keep going.
Me: No, I won't. I don't like it.
Them: You'll like it, I promise. Just relax, Baby.
Me: Actually, you're rubbing me raw and it's getting very uncomfortable.
Them: C'mon, I told you you'll like it. Quit being like that. I'm doing this for you.
Me: Enough. Stop. Now.
Them: You never let me do anything for you, you frigid bitch! Here I am trying to give you the best orgasm you'll ever have and you won't let me! Don't complain I never give you anything!
Posted Tue Jan 14, 2014 09:13 AM
I love to do anything a woman needs to have a great time, though since I'm on the small end of average, I'm best with women who love oral and other forms of clit stimulation. I'm probably one of the few men in the world who views penetrative sex as something of a short-lived let down.
Posted Tue Jan 14, 2014 03:16 PM
Posted Tue Jan 14, 2014 06:04 PM
Our goto method for a quick vanilla sex is I'm laying cross ways to my wife with my cock in her. After a bit, I apply the Hitachi wand to the clit at the same time (the crossways position allows easy access). Once she starts cumming, then I can pound her gspot which makes her continue to cum for at least a couple minutes. She can hardly walk and is dizzy afterwards. Very rewarding! So clit first and the gspot wakes up!
This post has been edited by williamg: Tue Jan 14, 2014 06:08 PM
Posted Tue Jan 14, 2014 10:42 PM
Didnt know it was really a secret ..... Thought this was kinda common knowledge...
Good read for any guy that doesnt know better...
If ya want to know what a women likes...
Just ask her and listen.... Great lovers aren't born... They learned by listening..
Posted Wed Jan 15, 2014 06:54 AM
very true. Need to work up to it. Pussy lips stimulation deliberately AVOIDING the clit. After she gets juicy and turned on, then hitting the clit is the "its time to orgasm" button. Another technique, get her very drunk....then anything goes!
This post has been edited by spud14: Wed Jan 15, 2014 06:55 AM
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Posted Thu Jan 16, 2014 07:02 PM
Just my experience.
Posted Fri Jan 17, 2014 02:24 AM
Like when you girls are madturbsting are u apply pressure ..pressing or letting the vibrator touch it ever so lightly.
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Posted Fri Jan 17, 2014 06:26 PM
Your also right in that the clit is made of the same tissue and nerve endings as the penis and for a guy not to know that or not even have taken the time to find out, is in my eyes nothing less than ignorant.
To the guys this post is aimed: Your probably not even interested in reading it in the first place because you think your cock is the answer to all your woman's needs... As she said, COMMUNICATE and that goes for both of you. Obviously after 40 years of having figured this out I'm surprised younger guys are still with this attitude. Take time for foreplay instead of just wanting to stick it in. Get over the idea that the only good orgasm you can have is vaginal penetration. Yes, its part of the natural instinct but this isn't the stone age anymore. If your not sure on how to stimulate her clit, ask her and she should be open enough to tell you and guide you. Be gentle and let her tell you if she needs firmer stimulation or not. Some women I've known are more sensitive at different stages of arousal or even what time of month it is. If you've got a big ego and think your God's gift to women, leave it in the toilet where it belongs and then flush completely!
Gals: Don't be afraid to tell your man what you need. I've known some women that have been hesitant and reading minds was never a strong point of mine. If you do and he still thinks he knows what's best, then you've got a bigger problem then just with the sex and maybe its time to move on. I think saying only 10% of guys get it may be a little low because if I'm out there I'm sure there are other guys that are just a caring as I am - I hope and pray!!
Continued luck on your awareness campaign!
Posted Fri Jan 17, 2014 08:16 PM