Posted Tue Mar 04, 2014 08:21 PM
Posted Tue Mar 04, 2014 11:08 PM
Posted Wed Mar 05, 2014 03:49 AM
I'll second that!
Things with Mr Rabbit were in a bad way and I'd become very sexually restless. His letting me go with someone else just made me realise what I was missing and now I'm very happily with some else.
You need to open up the dialogue and try to find out where she's at.
This post has been edited by White.Rabbit: Wed Mar 05, 2014 03:51 AM
Posted Wed Mar 05, 2014 06:54 AM
As previously mentioned, talk to her. The only way things can improve is if you sit her down and have a rational and open discussion about your issue. Be prepared to hear things you may not want to hear, refrain from judgment and just listen to her. Once you figure out what the underlying issues are, then and only then can you move forward to correct them.
Let me ask you this, has she gained weight after giving birth ? Has she kept that weight on ? How is she with her body image ? Does she dress in lingerie ? Does she hide her body ? How was she when you introduced toys ? Was she excited ? Did she enjoy it through orgasm ? As for orgasms, did you/do you focus on her orgasms over your own ?
There are many reasons why people lose interest in sex, you need to find out what caused her loss of interest and move forward from there. And in order to do that, you need to open the line of communication and that is the key to solving this riddle. Do not take " nothing " as an answer either. You also need to let her know in a nice way that this is bothering you. Do not give her any ultimatums either, not just yet. Talk, listen, digest and then move forward in correcting your issues. Once you have tried everything, then you know you did all you could and that is when the ultimatums come in to play. But do all you can first to correct your issues first. I hope you can resolve your issues, good luck.
Posted Wed Mar 05, 2014 07:10 AM
Posted Wed Mar 05, 2014 07:34 AM
Posted Wed Mar 05, 2014 07:44 AM
This is the way to get her attracted to you? Maybe that is the whole problem...she wants a manly man to turn her on. Not some whimp she can dominate and not respect. Buy "the married man sex life primer" and try a different approach.
Also, let her know that rejecting you for sex is not acceptable to your marriage, and there will be consequences if she does not start putting out. No sex = breach of marriage contract (unless she has some serious medical issues. If so have her see a good sex doctor!"
oh, and the obvious thought: is she screwing some other guy? OFTEN a women who appears to be zero libido is that way because she is in love/screwing some other man, and you are just her unknowing cuckolded husband.
Get her an account here, and see if she can get her libido stoked by reading, watching, or maybe even camming here in the chat lounge. just....establish some rules before you turn her loose here! lol
This post has been edited by spud14: Wed Mar 05, 2014 07:49 AM
Posted Wed Mar 05, 2014 09:54 AM
Hello, unfortunately you are experiencing what almost all husbands do. A drop-off of sexual desire can come from your wife having a baby. I am not saying this is the source of your problem, not at all. A woman without a child sometimes has a mind that drives her to seek pregnancy and the best way to do that is as much sex as possible. After birth her mind may switch off this sexual overdrive mode. My wife wanted as many children as possible since almost all the families around her as she grew up had large families. After three boys I decided to put a halt to this because I wanted to give as much love to each child as I could. The more we had the less time I would have for each one. I regret this decision now. After this she slowed big time as far as sex. Talking with other married men the same thing seems to have happened to them. I just wanted to give you one possible cause. Have you tried oral on her after a long time kissing and fondling? Talk with her calmly and perhaps her input will help. Best of luck and hang in there, after all she has moods and feeling too.
Posted Wed Mar 05, 2014 10:42 AM
Posted Wed Mar 05, 2014 10:56 AM