Would you stay w/o sex??
Posted Fri Mar 07, 2014 06:20 PM
Also would any one of you stay in a no sex relationship? Just curious.lol
Posted Fri Mar 07, 2014 06:48 PM
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Posted Fri Mar 07, 2014 07:31 PM
No he is not happy at all. With our sex life.n idk if or how I can keep this relationship going I keep telling my ob dr n they kinda laugh it off .I have not had sex since sept ...
Posted Fri Mar 07, 2014 07:33 PM
Posted Fri Mar 07, 2014 07:45 PM
We both explained it to my ob that I have no homones that desire sex.I have explained every detail to drs n they say ststress.my bf I have told him about everything and he is always there at drs in with me.
He says he does everything n it never helps.n he always tries to get my attention by naked hugs showering together etc n I just steer clear...what is wrong w my mind...I know I have depression anxiety n ptsd but I would like to be dome what normal in aspect of craving liking sex n foreplay.
In the past I have only really liked sex with a new bf.I dont get why. But this has ruined all my relationships
I want to at least have that throbbing desire maybe once a week at least .I dont feel like a normal 33 yr old I feel like I'm way beyond different in so many ways.
Someone suggested red wine at night .judt a lil bit but I can't drink at all n I dont do any drugs except my rx
Posted Fri Mar 07, 2014 07:58 PM
Posted Fri Mar 07, 2014 08:10 PM
Can you be more specific ????
Posted Fri Mar 07, 2014 08:15 PM
Would you like to take pics of each other put on a show for the other, would you like it rougher, be more sub or dom, have fun out doors have sex somewhere you might get found or would you like to be watched, would you like to be less of a lady?
Posted Fri Mar 07, 2014 08:58 PM
You won't know how much is stress and how much is hormones unless you get a proper set of bloods done.
This post has been edited by White.Rabbit: Fri Mar 07, 2014 09:00 PM
Posted Sat Mar 08, 2014 05:59 AM
Ummm...no none of that lol
Posted Sat Mar 08, 2014 07:13 AM
Sounds like you have a loving man, a need for him to be there (a kid), but you are deliberately (or subconciously) doing everything you can to drive him away. Are you really going to be happier when he gets fed up and quits? The sexual rejection on your part seems to only be a symptom of something way deeper. Maybe a professional can help you out. I think it is beyond just getting him to put on a tarzan suit and call you Jane.
Posted Sat Mar 08, 2014 08:33 AM
I have been seeing a councelor
Posted Sat Mar 08, 2014 05:07 PM
........I have been seeing a councelor
My wife has been haveing the same lack of interest for many years, thats why Im here.
I believe she is starting to get over it at last. We have had very little sex for the past 15 years so I do know what your talking about. You say you are suffering, among other things, PTSD. Yo also say you have had this problem since you were about 18yo. I am curious, is the PTSD & the 18 years of age related? Or did you have some other thing happen as a child that you do not feel contributes to your PTSD?
I dont sffer from PTSD, but I do have cronic depression, and I can assure you that once you have a mental issue, everything is related because the least little things compount d into big issues.
My advice to you is this.... Don't waste your time or money with a councilor. You cant fix everything at once, but you can sort out one problem at a time, but the brain gets scrambled when chemicals are not balanced. you need regurar blood tests & meds to get the balance correct & a councilor cant help you there. Your Partner need to understand that your not just doing this to piss him off so the sooner he starts supporting your return to health, the sooner things get better for him, but this will not be a quick fix.
you will need to show him you stlii care about him and give him the closeness he needs because, I am willing to bet this has a lot more to do with closeness than sex. cuddle lots, go for walks & both stop arguing.
this is fixable but it will require time & understanding from both of you
Posted Sat Mar 08, 2014 05:29 PM
Ty so much .n I had my bf read it.
I know not many people can totally understand thos issue.also.yes I do believe I neglect his closeness needs as well due to if I cuddle and b close he will get hard then I'm afraid of kind of being called a tease n leading him on...
I'm sure by child hood affects all my emotions as let's just say it was not at all nice by mu mom or her bfs
Posted Sat Mar 08, 2014 07:20 PM
But if I was being rejected, like the dude just didn't want to for w/e reason. I would stay...just long enough to cheat on him, and let him know before we split.
At least we would break up with a smile on my face.
But I've never had the issue.