Anyone else living in a limited sexual relationship?
Posted Mon Mar 24, 2014 04:28 PM
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Posted Tue Mar 25, 2014 01:46 AM
Let's simplify your query.
Your wife seems to be a good catch, and she also seems to be reasonably sexual with you, which is more than what lots of men on here can say. The question you need to ask yourself is this: What's more important? Getting to experience some sexual fantasies, or being the man your wife wants you to be?
There's no right answer, at least in the purely objective sense. I'm of the mind that yeah, missing out on some things like that isn't ideal, but I value my wife's happiness more than I value having an orgy or whatever. I'm going to die never having experienced an orgy. And you know what? 99.9999999% of my life will have been the same as if I did experience an orgy....so why run the risk of hurting the most important association in my life to alter an hour or two of my existence. The value, in my calculus, isn't there. I'd rather be without an orgy than without my wife.
Not saying that's what you should do...but that's my perspective and the logic behind it. Good luck, bro....shit like this is never easy.
This post has been edited by ilyushin: Tue Mar 25, 2014 01:50 AM
Posted Tue Mar 25, 2014 05:25 AM
an open marriage requires a stable marriage and rules on how to proceed. Sounds like she would never agree to the "rules".
Posted Tue Mar 25, 2014 03:31 PM
Posted Tue May 13, 2014 05:28 PM
Anyways, after few months of struggling with the decision i decided i was going to approach this slowly because tons of people are saying NO doesn't mean never and who knows where you are going to be 10 years from now in a relationship, i mean the bonding gets better and obviously that could lead to things that we believe won't happen, at least yet.
Also, what has helped me is just discussing new ideas... So what if she doesn't want a threesome? Is she ok with a dildo and you at a same time? So what if she doesn't want to have a bf outside of marriage, is she ok with role playing?
What has worked out for me is the fact that i told my wife that none of this matters and i don't really want it in real life (scared that she might think i am insane wanting her with another man) but asked her if she would play along as a fantasy? She agreed and once in a while we have sexting threesome... me playing 2 different guys from 2 different computers.. really hot 3 hours long Skype chats etc. Usually this happens when i am travelling for few days and she is all by herself at the house... Now this is where it gets tricky, while we are having it, she is all horny and enjoying it and continously making sure both guys are playing with her really well....She even like to suggest names for the second guy.... So now i am confused again?
Posted Tue May 13, 2014 05:36 PM
If this is what she actually told you, it sounds like she gave you a hall pass. The question is, would you be willing to allow the same for her?
Perhaps, you should talk to her a bit more in depth on that statement that she made?
Posted Tue May 13, 2014 06:40 PM
Get her on here to chat with some guys or women. If she can not do at least THAT, there is no way you are bringing home a buddy for an MFM.
Posted Tue May 13, 2014 06:56 PM
Posted Tue May 13, 2014 07:04 PM
Believe her actions, not her words. If you can get her to actually do some kinky stuff, like some no-risk cyber sex, THEN you can move it up a step.
Posted Wed May 14, 2014 04:45 PM