Unwritten code between bi or gay or even swingers?
Posted Fri Aug 29, 2014 12:54 PM
Posted Fri Aug 29, 2014 01:03 PM
with me being single I just ask
Posted Fri Aug 29, 2014 09:58 PM
you will never know until you try and if you want to get anywhere with them you will have to start talking at some point.
This post has been edited by SexyFantasyGirl: Fri Aug 29, 2014 10:06 PM
Posted Fri Aug 29, 2014 11:37 PM
Basically, its a form of subtly broadcasting or "flagging" your kinks, likes, orientation, gender identity, etc.
It started out back in the day in the gay community with colored/patterned handkerchiefs in your back pocket. Left pocket flagged that you were a top, right flagged you were bottom. Color and pattern flagged your kinks and whatnot. People get creative with it, as not everyone has pockets, so a lot of times a bandanna is used instead, or tied to an arm or purse strap or whatever.
A lot us girls use nail polish nowadays...we (usually) color the nails on our fucking fingers (middle and ring) different than the others, either a color or pattern or whatever, girls get really crazy with their nail art.
For example, I wear black nail polish to indicate I am into the slave/master lifestyle, and light pink on my fucking fingers to indicate I like being fucked with a strap-on. If im going to a kink party or dungeon or whatever kink social event, (and Im feeling like adding a little extra flair) Ill put little traffic light dots to indicate consent for others to advance on me. I wear a locking lace slave collar to indicate Im a slave currently owned by a Mistress. (thats not flagging per se, but most in the kink lifestyle understand the meanings of a collar) I usually wear the purple gingham hanky to indicate Im a trans girl or a houndstooth hanky to indicate my biting kink depending on what Im wearing or where Im going. Crazy right? I have a ton more too since I have quite a few kinks haha...
Basic rules of flagging:
- Flagging is not consent.
- Flagging means being cool with being propositioned, being rejected, and having the capacity to reject.
- Flagging is pan gender (you can’t assume someone’s junk from a flag).
- There are no anti-flags.
- Flagging is slut-pride.
If you google 'flagging opinicus rampant' it will take you to a wonderful site with a ton of info about flagging and the hanky code colors/patterns.
Hope this helps! ♥
This post has been edited by TraptasticTasha: Fri Aug 29, 2014 11:50 PM
Posted Sat Aug 30, 2014 03:33 AM
Don't feel bad they wont show it to me either lol .