Posted Mon Sep 01, 2014 07:13 PM
So I have been having an issue as of late that I am not too sure on how to deal with and any suggestions would be welcome. I will be honest and say that I am not very experienced (only have had about four encounters- all one nighters and all very lack luster (preface: I am 26). I tend to get really nervous and anxious when involved with sexual entanglements and it has really got me down. During these encounters it had been mostly been left up to me to lead/control and I think due to my nerves and lack of experience and some movement restrictions from an old pelvis break, it just culminated into a perfect storm of bad sex. I have thought about trying to seek out a woman through some websites who maybe would be interested in taking control and basically helping me out but I have a feeling such a person would be hard to find and is a bit of a farfetched idea. So if anyone has any ideas on how I might be able to help fight this issue let me know. Much thanks!
Posted Mon Sep 01, 2014 07:18 PM
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This post has been edited by everest: Mon Sep 01, 2014 07:33 PM
Posted Fri Sep 05, 2014 05:51 PM
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Posted Sun Sep 14, 2014 03:43 AM
All of those are great solutions but I think we need to get to the core of the issue which is OP's anxiety when it comes to sex. Doing everything but that is still avoiding the core issue which is anxiety revolving around sex. My invitation to OP would be to challenge those thoughts. You can't fix a problem you created in your head by using your head. You have to physically do something to get a result. My suggestion would be to just try and convert that anxiety into excitement if possible, and if not, then just be calm and go with the flow. Don't anticipate anything, don't plan. Just have fun. If you get nervous, or excited, or your dick can't get hard EMBRACE it! Sex, and life, is all about having fun and just experiencing things regardless of the outcome. And chances are it's never, ever as bad or as scary as you think it'll be. The more you avoid this, the more pissed off you'll be, and the more you'll feel worse and then it just ends up being a negative cycle of reinforcement and you don't want to dig that hole.