She made out with 2 other girls
Posted Sat Nov 29, 2008 02:45 AM
I went to her house to pick her up and we went into her room to talk. I started asking her what she did when i wasn't there and i had a feeling that she was hiding something from me. She told me that she was flirting with her one friend, who is a lesbian, and also flirting with her brothers girlfriend with him right there. Then I knew she was hiding something so i asked her what else she did and she said she made out with her friend and her brothers girlfriend.
Now she knows that i hate the thought of her kissing another girl but she did it anyway. And the worst part of it is that i asked her if she made out with them when i saw her on thursday night and she lied straight to my face.
This really affected me because i can't sleep because when i close my eyes all i see is her doing that with them, I feel so sick, it was just like getting punched in the stomach when she told me that, and i cried my eyes out when she told me. But she doesn't even care! It's like i feel like really breaking up with her cause i just can't even look at her now. Right now she is laying in my bed and i just can't even be by her right now. And i also noticed that all of her friends right now are lesbians, which makes me really worry that she might be doing something more with them. Sorry for such a long post but this is really bothering me right now. I don't know if it's ok for me to be this mad or not and i really think it might be the last straw. Does anyone have any insight on this?
Cliff notes: I got into a fight with my girlfriend and broke up for the night, she made out with 2 of her friends and knows i hate eben the thought of her touching another person, same sex or not, lied to me about it and i don't know what to do
Posted Sat Nov 29, 2008 05:44 PM
1. She really doesn't care about your feelings anymore.
2. She's pretending to not care about you because she wants to hurt you and maybe "teach you a lesson".
Either way, this relationship is over man. All you are going to accomplish by staying with her is you're going to prolong the healing process of getting over her. She cheated on you. I've been in the same place as you and it's hard I know. But you need to move on and dump her ass.
Posted Sun Nov 30, 2008 03:30 AM
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Posted Sun Nov 30, 2008 03:56 AM
Any relationship has to have trust , honesty , & consideration for both involved . If even one of these things is missing , the relationship is doomed . Your telling me she's lied to you , cheated on you , & shown little consideration for your feelings . What I'd suggest is that you two have what I call a "Come To Jesus" , that is a totally honest , open , & long talk . Tell her how these things are hurting you & ask her if things are gonna get better , if she cant say with total honesty that she'll meetcha 1/2 way & try her best to work things out , you might wanna consider walking away from the relationship . Otherwise your gonna be miserable for a long time & still wind up parting ways . No need to drag it out & suffer if it's not gonna ever improve .
Posted Sun Nov 30, 2008 08:02 AM
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Posted Sun Nov 30, 2008 09:21 PM
You might not like what she did, but already pointed out, she didn't know you were going to get back together the next day. If you can't live with it, maybe you need to move on. I do think that you need to get over this as well.
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Posted Wed Dec 03, 2008 02:23 AM
I think the relationship is over, not because she kissed another woman, but because of your inability to look at the situation logically.
Posted Wed Dec 03, 2008 02:38 AM
Posted Wed Dec 03, 2008 11:56 AM
She mentioned that she wanted to have sex with another girl and she would only do it if i was there, but i could only be involved with her, never touching the other girl. And i asked her why and she said that its ok for girls to kiss girls but guys cant if they are in a relationship. I would be ok with her kissing them but not doing it behind my back and lying about it. I would have to be there. I think the biggest issue here is trust now.
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