We went online and after filtering through dozens of guys I finally met someone for a coffee. We got along great, he seemed a perfect fit for both of our desires. This first meeting was just between me and the guy we found online.
We set a date for him to meet the my girlfriend for drinks at a bar across town that sits on top of an upscale hotel. We all got along great, my girlfriend was having a good time but a little nervous about his advances. He was very polite, respectful and just a fun guy to hang out with. He talked to both of us about his respect for our relationship and his role in our endeavors. After a few drinks and few hours of good conversation we came to a point where we wanted to either grab a room and have some fun or head home. He gave us a moment to discuss it and when hearing my girlfriend say she thought we should find a private place to continue our night I kinda felt some reservations and chickened out.
I'm trying to not regret my decision, my girlfriend feels no regret, she just feels the time wasn't right. I'm still spending a lot of time thinking about seeing these two together, often bringing it up while we're having fun or during heated texting. She still enjoys the talks and the thoughts still get me very excited.
So my questions are....Is it that uncommon to freak out during a first "date"? Does this mean it's just not for us/me? Should I just try to move on and stop watering this seed of desire or meet with him again, this time with both my girlfriend and I knowing we intend to have a few drinks then let the fun begin.
Note that even after we all decided to hit the brakes due to my reservations we still had some great conversation and all left in good spirits and open to meeting again.
This post has been edited by sabrosagatito: Wed Feb 18, 2015 11:19 PM