How long to wait?
Posted Tue Feb 24, 2015 11:21 AM
So the first one is a pretty obvious one. How long would you wait to have sex with someone? This is assuming you haven't known each other for a long time like being old friends.
How long before you would get handsy with each other? Would you finger her on the first date? Would you give him a handjob?
How long before oral? Would you make him wait before sucking his cock? Would you let him cum in your mouth the first time and would you swallow? Would you offer a facial? Would you taste her pussy the first chance you get? Would you give but refuse to receive or the other way around? Would you be turned off if they weren't shaved?
How long before anal assuming you would do it? Would you let her fuck you with a strap on the first time you fucked? Would you let him put his cock up your ass?
How long before you let the other see you naked?
How long would you wait before you told the other some of the less ordinary sex acts you like? That could be a certain position, certain kink, something you like to watch/see or something else entirely.
So lets hear those answers and if you have another question to add go ahead.
Posted Tue Feb 24, 2015 11:32 AM
If I was looking for a new partner (not that I am), and noticed that certain spark with someone, I wouldn't wait for anything. I'd just be honest with the other person. I'd try to engage in mature dialog as to what I was looking for, and what was off limits, and I'd expect the same from the other person. If we found common ground, then I'd go for it.
Life is too short to beat around the bush and play games. Know what you want. Look for somebody else who knows what they want. Encourage open communication. If you can do that, and go forward without fear, you're going to have a long and wonderful sex life.
Sex in its rawest form is about as honest a thing as you will ever find.
Posted Tue Feb 24, 2015 03:36 PM
Plus, it's just how I am. Any guys I have liked sexually, and hasn't been too many, around 7, the sexual attraction and desire didn't come until after I got to know them better. Wasn't instant. Though the physical attraction may have been. The fire doesn't burn on looks alone though. It's just a good starting point. Personality traits are the make-or-break. Odds aren't in my favor. But it's just how I am wired.
Posted Tue Feb 24, 2015 07:51 PM
After exchanging emails and photos, we talked on the phone frequently before meeting in person for a get-acquainted lunch. We found each other attractive and fun, easy to be with.
One week after that lunch, and again after talking on the phone every day and two or three times a day at that, I met him at his home with every expectation of getting naked and having sex. But still, I was terrified! I hadn't been with another man in over two decades, and at my core, I'm actually quite shy. He, however, being quite the aggressive, assertive, very un-shy type, led me to his bedroom before I had any chance to protest, and in a minute was nude in front of me. The instant I saw that magnificent and very hard cock of his, I couldn't keep my mouth off it. We sucked each other's cocks, but didn't swallow, as we didn't know each other well enough yet. I came on his chest, and he came on mine, and we both knew we wanted more.
One week after oral sex came anal sex. Again, talking on the phone daily and getting enormously horny for each other, found us becoming more and more comfortable. I went to his home, he led me upstairs to his bed, and after I enjoyed sucking him for a while, he rolled on a condom (Trojan Magnum), I lubed him up, and he fucked me in the ass. After so long without a man, it was a struggle to get that big dick up my very tight butt, but once he was in me, we both knew we could give each other what we each needed and craved.
Over the next couple of weeks, we met twice more, and we knew we were very attracted to each other. We both got tested, and since the evening we shared our test results, showing we were both clean and safe, we ditched the condoms.
That was all nearly four and a half years ago. As gay men, we are hopelessly in love with each other, and as gay lovers, we are madly in lust, and totally committed to each other, dedicated, partnered. We share anything and everything - kinks, fantasies, desires, experiences - without fear or worry. With oral sex, we always swallow each other's semen - wouldn't think of letting that go to waste! And when he fucks me, our intimacy and pleasure is far deeper without a condom coming between us, and he cums freely inside me.
Again, we might not be a fair case, but it certainly worked for us!