Open Relationship Configurations
Posted Mon May 11, 2015 09:48 AM
I read a lot on here about people in open relationships, or at least some form of accepted side play, in a committed relationship. I'm just curious, when I'm reading about those, what is the most common configuration? Personally, I think I might be most comfortable to play with other couples, because their expectations would be (presumably) similar to ours since they're in the same boat. But obviously that comes with a lot of assumptions.
Also, what other stipulations do you put on it? Same or separate rooms? Do you meet your partner's partners or would you rather not? Only same-sex partners or is anyone game?
Finally, I realize there's many types of relationships and I don't mean to minimize any by including the "other" option.
I'm just dipping my toe in learning about this lifestyle, so be gentle!
Posted Tue May 12, 2015 06:03 AM
So when we go to sexual party's he has sex with other girls and I have sex with who I want.
So I suppose our relationship is open.
Posted Tue May 12, 2015 03:59 PM
Posted Tue May 12, 2015 04:20 PM
They both involved either one night stands or regular FWB on the side.
I was with a girl at uni for a couple of months, I graduated and moved home for a while, as we both had pretty big sex drives we decided to be "open" I had a couple of regular girls I'd been with before who I hooked up with. I later moved back to Uni town, but we stayed open for a while before breaking up.
It was occasionally a little awkward, when we'd go out together and she'd be talking to a male friend my mind would wander and I'd assume they'd be one of her special friends if she didn't introduce me to them.
On the flip side to that coin, I remember one night I was getting into bed with her (not to have sex, just for sleep) I took my shirt off and apparently had pretty clear scratches down my back, granted she used to scratch my back a little, but hadn't in a while, so these were obviously "fresh marks" and she got a little upset over that.
It was hit and miss, better for the more long distance thing, got a little awkward when we were living closer.
Posted Tue May 26, 2015 08:13 AM