The importance of saying "I love you"
Posted Tue Jun 02, 2015 10:34 AM
Goes a long way toward moving forward from the blowup...
Posted Tue Jun 02, 2015 11:06 AM
Posted Wed Jun 10, 2015 04:02 PM
Those three little words mean nothing, if saying it is empty at the time. And might not even be merited depending on whatever we are fighting about.
Posted Sun Jun 21, 2015 08:42 PM
Posted Sun Jun 21, 2015 09:40 PM
Posted Mon Jun 22, 2015 12:47 PM
so many people say it so many times, so often, I doubt they are even conscious of doing it.
Posted Mon Jun 22, 2015 12:56 PM
This post has been edited by Vodka: Mon Jun 22, 2015 12:57 PM
Posted Mon Jun 22, 2015 10:35 PM
Posted Mon Jun 22, 2015 10:43 PM
Posted Tue Jun 23, 2015 01:50 AM
For me to tell my wife that I love her....means the world to me....and to hear her say it to me...even more....!!!
Been with my girl now for 28 years.....and I can honestly say this...I love her more every day....and will never stop telling her that....
Wish you all....ALL the love in the world..
Posted Fri Jun 26, 2015 02:48 PM
No one needs that kind of regret, and I've got a lot of regrets...that one, I hope to never have.
Posted Fri Jun 26, 2015 10:38 PM
Posted Sun Jun 28, 2015 03:16 AM
removed the comment. too personal.
This post has been edited by Caramel55: Sun Jun 28, 2015 03:18 AM
Posted Mon Jun 29, 2015 03:07 PM
Posted Sun Aug 23, 2015 04:40 AM
Posted Mon Aug 24, 2015 05:27 PM
I choose you.
Choice is rarely talked about with love relationships.
Before I knew it/all of a sudden/just like that,
I fell in love
I couldn't help myself
I didn't know what hit me
She roped me/landed me/reeled me in/hooked me/nabbed me/got me
Love is seen as a force unto itself, something that happens to us, not a conscious, deliberate act of sharing our life with someone else. We are responsible for every word, every action, every touch, every look. If we're operating on auto-pilot, we run the risk of trotting out that other popular cliché:
I'm sorry; I didn't mean it.
The woman I live with is can be difficult, as I can be, too. But in all moments of joy and conflict, I try to say to myself (at least) "I choose you". I need to be reminded that I didn't fall into anything. I wasn't roped or hooked, and, most importantly, I can walk away anytime. To have this woman in my life is a matter of choice, and I choose her.
If you can use 'love' to describe how you feel about coffee, a movie, a baseball game, a TV show, your new shoes, a hot shower or lasagna, that may not be the word to tell the primary person in your life precisely how you feel about being together. But no matter how life seems at the moment, look over at that person and remember that you had a choice, and you still do. Whatever we mean by 'love' at any given time, 'choice' is still fairly clear and direct. So just say it:
I choose you.
This post has been edited by Scotty Wright: Mon Aug 24, 2015 05:28 PM
Posted Mon Aug 24, 2015 07:32 PM
Growing up we weren't the "mushy" vocal types & I wasn't raised that way .
So I didn't say it enough for her to believe it , or as many times as she thought she should hear it to suit her .
So she'd badger it out of me , getting me to say it on every lil thing like phone calls , getting outa bed , even going out to walk Jack .
Now it's a reflexive response , kinda like push button , hear words .
No real feeling in it , just a programmed response .
To the point of when I do feel like saying it , it feels fake .