help advice tips long term relationship
Posted Mon Jul 20, 2015 02:28 PM
i am on here looking for some help/advice but i dont know were to start so i will just try and stick it all down whats on my mind.
I have only been with 1 girl who i have a 6yr old boy with and been together nearly 20yrs. The problem is in the bedroom, when we have sex its great both of us cum and enjoy each other, but only once a month at most. I have never came twice in the one session cos once she cums thats it no play and defo no more intercourse. Never tried anything apart from doggy and missionary. Now i would (i think??) try anything at least once.
So come on help me out what are my options advice/help/tips would be most appreciated thanks in advance T
Posted Mon Jul 20, 2015 03:40 PM
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Posted Tue Jul 21, 2015 04:16 AM
Posted Tue Jul 21, 2015 01:13 PM
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Posted Tue Jul 21, 2015 07:50 PM
Think bit more information required to tender any opinion.
she comes once an is SATISFIED with ONCE ....boy you must be sending her to planet ROCK....
but sex ONLY once a month....
just in the bedroom.....
see - need more information to "advise"
This post has been edited by the minx: Tue Jul 21, 2015 07:51 PM
Posted Tue Jul 21, 2015 11:08 PM
Posted Wed Jul 22, 2015 07:43 AM
First, look all over this site, it's great for all sorts of information. Have only been browsing around it for couple of weeks but the posters run the sexual spectrum from conservative monogamous folks to completely uninhibited wild swingers (of all orientations). What seems to be the common thread is that nearly everyone is friendly, non-judgmental, and FUN in the bedroom is everyone's goal.
Communication. Does she know there is "a problem" in the bedroom? You guys simply MUST communicate your desires / needs to each other. There's a big world of experiences out there and by coming here you obviously want to explore it. You have to tell her how important it is to you! She may even be feeling the same way. Either way sounds like there's some inhibitions at work here. Time to get intimate.
Next get educated. Two positions over 20 years, once a month (!), one strict orgasm per session...that's definitely not much variation. I'm excited thinking about what you two could discover together. My wife and I have been together almost 20 years and we still do new stuff all the time, there's endless exploration even just two people can do, and it's great!
Step one find the "issues":
What are hers? Be honest...ashamed of her body? Thinks sex is dirty? Raised in a repressive environment? Health problem? Is she really having orgasms, and do you know how to tell?
What's your main issue? Insecurity/fear of rejection? Afraid to share your feelings (gotta do that with most women)? Worried about the size of your penis? Ashamed of your body?
Be honest about it, can be painful but you'll find taking the problem head-on is the only way. Get busy!
Posted Mon Jul 27, 2015 10:49 PM