converting into an open relationship
Posted Sun Aug 02, 2015 06:07 PM
Posted Sun Aug 02, 2015 06:30 PM
Posted Sun Aug 02, 2015 06:39 PM
have u told him what u want ...want ur looking for?..............
girls if u don't cum out and tell us we cant read ur mind ...
just saying from my own life and when I did slowly things open up
Posted Sun Aug 02, 2015 06:55 PM
Posted Sun Aug 02, 2015 08:43 PM
He may come clean with everything that's ailing him.. Usually the first reaction of any women/man getting turned down from their partners are that their partners are getting it from somewhere else..
You won't know anything unless you communicate it to him. When ever I start to doubt anything in my marriage I ask and we talk.. Its the only way to keep your marriage strong to talk about everything and anything.. Do it honestly and openly.
This post has been edited by jacey: Sun Aug 02, 2015 08:44 PM
Posted Sun Aug 02, 2015 08:44 PM
Posted Sun Aug 02, 2015 08:44 PM
Back in May, she suggested we have an open relationship just out of the blue and while she had different reasons for it herself, it showed me that it was possible to get more sex, even outside the marriage, without necessarily ruining the marriage. However, my wife gave up on this idea because she got concerned it was too dangerous for us. I was already talking to a girl who was kind of in the same situation that I was in (you too) and was really hitting it off with her. Ever since, I've been trying to show my wife how much I need to do this. Not just because of the girl, but just because I can't go back to feeling selfish and greedy just because my body naturally needs more sex than what she can offer.
It's really frustrating when spouses don't understand this. I'm not sure my wife does. She thinks this is all in my head and has had a hard time taking this seriously. She also feels like she's not good enough for me and I don't really love her since I want to be with someone else. What I think I'm discovering is that I have polyamorous tendencies, where I can have loving relationships with more than one person (they don't have to be sexual). It has nothing to do with my wife. It's just how I'm wired. Since I had a pretty conservative upbringing, I never really got the chance to be exposed to this or experience it until this open relationship stuff came up a couple months ago.
Your husband should be more receptive to your needs, though. Whatever you do, just don't cheat on him. Make sure he's aware of what's going on and he's on board or that will make things worse. If he still chooses to neglect your needs, you'll need to decide whether you can live with that or you guys need to make some changes. It might take a while to get through to him, but keep at it. This is tough to go through.
Posted Sun Aug 02, 2015 08:55 PM
I have no idea if your husband would be into that,IMO couples who run around with other people even with the other ones permission will never work
I live with someone and we do things with other people all the time and we love it,but we are always together when we do it
Posted Mon Aug 03, 2015 01:32 AM
Posted Mon Aug 03, 2015 01:43 AM
Posted Mon Aug 03, 2015 02:59 AM
Posted Mon Aug 03, 2015 03:39 AM
I'm not saying yours has, but my ex pushed me aside in favour of his porn use and in doing so turned me into a sexual time bomb waiting to explode. In the end he offered to let me off the lead, because he could see I was restless, but it backfired on him big time and I'm now with someone else.
IF your OH were to agree to try an open relationship you both need to be fully aware of the potential consequences. I'm not saying it can't work, but there's no accounting for emotional twists and turns, especially in the face of apparent mismatched needs.
Instinct tells me that you have an underlying issue that he's not disclosing, which you need to at least try get to the bottom of before looking at alternatives.
Personally there was no undoing the mess that my marriage had become because he would not accept that he was causing me ongoing issues. The truth was that we had unresolvable differences and when push came to shove I was made a better offer and took it with no regrets.
This post has been edited by White.Rabbit: Mon Aug 03, 2015 09:40 AM
Posted Mon Aug 03, 2015 05:14 AM
Posted Mon Aug 03, 2015 08:59 AM
It may not be the popular opinion around here but just go for it. And be very discreet. And safe.
Posted Mon Aug 03, 2015 07:02 PM
Posted Mon Aug 03, 2015 11:47 PM
Does he have any mental issues? Anxiety or depression? Is his job high level stress?
Posted Tue Aug 04, 2015 09:50 AM