One night stands
Posted Tue Aug 25, 2015 12:43 PM
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A recent case, from an older lady I am acquainted with. Was married, been out of the dating loop for some years now. She had been talking to a guy for 1 month. They hadn't consummated anything yet. When they finally had sex, she got up to use the bathroom, and when she came out, he was fully dressed and had her clothes laid out at the foot of the bed for her to get dressed as well. She says she was in utter shock, but got dressed, saying how weird it was. Then she told him he must have wanted her gone. He denied it, but didn't say anything else. She was very upset, and decided she wouldn't be talking to him anymore. She felt he treated her like a ONS. Apparently, not something she is or could be happy with. He did call her, but not to apologize or get together for a date. he called for her to come get something she left at his place.
With no expectation, disappointment is much less, of not non-existent. if you go into it hoping you'll get love, or a relationship, that's when the hurt comes in when you find that's not always the case, and that sometimes sex is just sex-not about the other person.
I am more open to ONS now, provided I find the guy very good-looking. That's literally my only requirement now. And that he not seem dangerous in any way. Theory, but I think I could handle it, since I can't buy the guy would have any attachment to me afterward, so no expectation of that. Then get dressed and leave immediately afterward. because with only 1 night, I don't think I would be that attached to him yet. It usually takes a bit of time, and seeing a good bit of guys before I become enamored with them-if I do. 1 night, I don't think, would be enough for that.
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Posted Tue Aug 25, 2015 05:29 PM
Sex has never met happily-ever-after to me. I assumed that everyone thought that way, and beat myself up for not getting with the program. After a while, I reasoned that people lie to themselves about what they feel and why, as if some justification was needed. But being sexual in the '70s brought a looseness to sex, pre-AIDS/STDs. We admitted our confusion about all the social-religious hangups surrounding sex, but just shrugged and went on fucking.
Now, at 60, I'm not looking for a new woman every night/week/month, nor are they looking for me. If the improbable happens, I'll consider the emotional, medical and practical consequence for each potential encounter, and try to make a reasonable decision.
But, bottom line: sex is fun. If it's not, adjust your mindset, and give yourself permission to pleasure (and be pleasured by) someone, for sex's sake - no further expectations...
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Posted Fri Aug 28, 2015 01:54 AM
Anyway, I messed around with one of her friends and then THAT chick's husband made me breakfast and asked how I liked banging his wife. Meanwhile he'd been tag teaming my friend with another dude in the next room.
Had I not met the woman I am now engaged to, I'd have kept going with the friend. I kind of wish I'd gotten a few threesomes out of my system back then.
Oh well. I'm very happy now.
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Posted Thu Sep 03, 2015 06:38 AM
Bingo. Couldn't have said it better myself.
Posted Fri Sep 11, 2015 12:02 PM
However considering that I'm married but separated, but still living in the same house. (so much fun SMH) until we get divorced and settle the house & belongings...and considering it's been between 3 and 4 years since we've had sex (over 5 years since *passionate* sex without her having to be hammered drunk).......not sure what's in my future but damn a couple of one night stands sounds pretty good.
....hmmm.....I *think* I remember what a vagina feels ilke...hopefully it comes back like riding a bike.
Posted Fri Sep 11, 2015 12:30 PM
A female friend of mine would go out and find one night stands all of the time. She didn't want a relationship. She just wanted Sex. Nothing wrong with that.
This post has been edited by honeypie: Fri Sep 11, 2015 12:32 PM