Posted Thu Sep 03, 2015 04:57 PM
I am looking for some new and exciting ways to initiate/start sex. My husband and I have been together for 15 years married 7 years and our sex is great but he recently told me he wants me to find new and exciting ways to initiate because I've become very predictable. We are a young couple in our early 30s but want so more spice in the before sex acts. To give you some background I am kind of shy or more reserved, I don't strip it makes me very uncomfortable especially after having 3 kids my body isn't what it used to be. I'm open to all suggestions and I want to thank all who respond in advance.
Posted Thu Sep 03, 2015 05:00 PM
Posted Thu Sep 03, 2015 09:34 PM
You've become very predictable
an its down to YOU to think up new ways to initiate
You've given birth to three children ....
an YOUR' shy to strip
an whats hubby doing to MAKE YOU FEEL GOOD ABOUT YOU
x J x
This post has been edited by the minx: Thu Sep 03, 2015 09:36 PM
Posted Thu Sep 03, 2015 10:36 PM
Posted Fri Sep 04, 2015 03:10 AM
Without knowing how you initiate sex at the minute it is hard to give help. I assume because you do not get undressed and naked in front of him that most of it is initiated in bed under covers? Correct me if I am wrong (that used to be us.....)
A few things to try....
Quickies... The sort when the **** are in bed or out that does not mean you have to get totally naked and can happen anywhere in the house initiate it by a teaser BJ if that is something you do.
Sex toys. If you don't have any I'm guessing as you are shy you may have them but not use them. That is a great way to initiate sex foreplay with toys and oral.
Maybe talk to him and suggest one day a week he initiates sex anywhere in the house however he wants I say house as been shy I am guessing outside sex would be a no no. Then you initiate sex a way you want to try start off small and work up. You can always come on here and tell us what you have tried worked and did not work and we can try give you new ideas.
Most important thing is to talk to him. He was very blunt but coming from been there and now realising how dull and predictive our sex life was because I hide under covers and he had to come onto me I understand now I have been through the same. Don't do anything you don't feel comfortable doing as this will not help you at all yes a little be of awkwardness is fine but if all your thinking is I want it to stop then don't carry on.
This post has been edited by kinkybyheart: Fri Sep 04, 2015 03:11 AM
Posted Fri Sep 04, 2015 05:00 AM
A great way to spice up ya sex life is to be spontaneous. When he is the lest likely to expect you to come onto him, do it then. Maybe when ya go shopping, how about leading him to the change rooms or when ya driving somewhere, get him to drive down a quiet country lane. Theres heaps of ways to spice it up, ya just gotta use ya imagination.
Posted Sat Sep 05, 2015 05:04 AM
If I put on a baby doll, stockings, and heels he will be like a dog in heat:)
Posted Sat Sep 05, 2015 05:10 AM
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