Before I get to the “meat” of this post I would like to say that I have gotten Q’s approval to post it and ANY replies or comments praising , or idolizing force or Rape will NOT be tolerated. Additionally, please do not disclose ages if anyone had experiences before consenting age (18).
I was recently sharing a bit of my history with someone and they asked if I had posted to the mental health forum in order to help start a discussion where anyone who has had similar experiences can discuss any problems they have been having or just feel that they aren’t alone. I hadn’t even thought about it, but I thought it would be a good idea. I realize that not everyone has had the support and the time to heal that I have.
When I was younger I was raped by a member of my church who I trusted because he was a family friend. I grew up in a religious household and I had had minimal to no education involving sex. I was unaware fully of how sex occurred, I did not know all the options about safety, and I did not realize the danger or the significance of the situation I was in. I was very vocal in the situation, but as I was also raised in a very actively non violent household I didn’t fight as hard as I could have, simply because it didn’t occur to me that I was allowed to. I was afraid that I, the victim, would be in trouble. That I had done something wrong because I was taught that being violent was not ok, that sex was not ok. This is level of lack of education and fear of consequences is unacceptable.
Is anyone else experiencing something similar? It is common for Rape victims to feel guilt, is anyone struggling with guilt? Does anyone have any questions or concerns?
Please remember to be respectful!
This post has been edited by ~Q~: Sat Oct 10, 2015 11:24 PM
Reason for edit:: No need to censor a serious discussion on this topic , ok to openly say it .