Do all women "squirt" when they cum?
Posted Tue Dec 15, 2015 11:54 PM
and start enjoying myself, my wife, and my interaction with others, ... to the FULLEST!!
Anywho, ... I see videos of women squirting when they cum, ... or even just flowing slowly when they climax.
.. although when my wife cums, ... even though she gets juicy,... I've never seen her squirt, or really get the lava flowing!
Could this be normal? or, am I not enticing her enough, .. or maybe even doing something wrong?
What should I be doing ... to make it easy and possible fro her to squirt when she orgasms?
(I've been trying to hit the G-spot and push her as far as possible ...)
thanks MUCHO for any help.
Posted Wed Dec 16, 2015 01:27 AM
Posted Wed Dec 16, 2015 01:33 AM
Posted Wed Dec 16, 2015 01:52 AM
Do NOT believe everything commercial porn shows you, or confuse it with bladder weakness that some may suffer with.
Look up Dr. Laura Berman on the subject and watch the video on my profile if you're interested.
Posted Wed Dec 16, 2015 08:22 AM
To the OP, sex is not a competitive sport. Oh, and contrary to what you might believe you do not 'give' your other half having an orgasm, she's responsible for that in knowing what turns her on - you are definitely (well hopefully), an enhancement to her orgasm, but her squirting, or not squirting, as far as I know, has nothing to do with your performance, and everything to do with her her body and how it physically responds. It's also her responsibility to convey to you, and you her, what turns you both on.
I'm a little bit tired of sex being portrayed, especially in mainstream porn, as a competitive sport. That's a load of bunkum imh.
Enjoy each other, it's that simple, be responsive to each other's needs. Bit of love thrown in the mix does wonders for a sex life too, takes it a level beyond what you can do on your own.
Posted Wed Dec 16, 2015 09:02 AM
Posted Wed Dec 16, 2015 09:11 AM
And again, thanks for the great forum and site. I was drawn here because from what I've seen so far, ... all the members seem to be "real" people enjoying what they love,...
and I want to be a part of that!!!
Posted Wed Dec 16, 2015 10:39 AM
That said, all women have the ability to squirt, if they want to, and learn the techniques, and don't have some physical blockage stopping them. Not all women will want to try it or even enjoy it. Everyone is different.
But, if you or your partner want to try this there are many techniques you can learn to help you get there.
-Most women learn to squirt via G-spot stimulation, although some women squirt from clitoral, or anal stimulation. These areas are all closely related, as the G-spot is actually a part of the internal clitoris.
-Most women need to be very aroused to the brink of orgasm before they can be stimulated in the G-spot area for the first time. This is because the G-spot remains hidden until she is aroused. Once aroused, you can insert your finger 1"-2" deep, and feel around on the upper vagina (belly side). The G-spot feels pruny and wrinkled, like rubbing your tongue over the top of your mouth. The surrounding area is smooth, like the inside of your cheeks. So, by feeling around for a bit you can feel the difference in texture.
-Once you find it you can begin to stroke it (come hither) and apply a bit of pressure to it, until it begins to swell with fluid. This is when it becomes easier to find. Everyone is different, so try different strokes and types of pressure. Some women like very firm pressure, and even banging into it when she is very aroused and ready to squirt.
-When she is ready to squirt, she should try to press out to release the ejaculate. Some women just squirt without doing this, other women have to push it out.
-Ejaculate could be a teaspoon or more that a few cups of fluid, or none at all. Some women experience retrograde ejaculate, which is when the fluid is pushed back into the bladder, rather than squirting out. (men can do this too, and experience multiple orgasms this way).
-Women can G-spot orgasm without ejaculate, and they can ejaculate without orgasm. The best feeling is when they are in sync together.
Tips to help with G-spot orgasms and ejaculation:
-She must be very relaxed, very turned on, and comfortable with her body and sex, as well as open to trying this. Being comfortable with her partner is important as well, like trusting them, and not feeling like she will be judged.
-This should be exploratory sex without a goal. Don't make the goal orgasm or ejaculation, make the goal exploring her G-spot, learning to feel the pleasure there, trying something new and having fun. Don't take it too seriously, or worry about not getting there. Sometimes it takes many attempts to get there, so just enjoy the ride.
-You can't give her an orgasm, she is in control of her own body, but you can encourage her and your fingers can help, as she is able to lay back and allow you to stimulate her.
-Let her guide you on what is working and what is not.
-Doing kegels and having a strong pelvic floor aids in G-spot orgasms, orgasms in general (can make them stronger/longer), and squirting.
-Doing tantric breathe techniques can help get the orgasmic energy flowing through the body, making it easier to orgasm, and making orgasms more powerful.
-Pumping her hips while you stimulate her by doing pelvic tilts helps ejaculation and orgasms.
-Moaning and being vocal helps intensify orgasms.
-Make sure she is hydrated before, during and after.
-You may have to remove your fingers when she squirts, so you are not blocking the fluid from emitting. Often, during intercourse, the power of her orgasm will just squirt your penis out.
-A G-spot dildo can help her practice this solo, or with a partner as well.
-Use a plastic sheet on the bed under her and a towel to soak up the fluid. I get cheap plastic drop clothes for painting at the dollar store for this.
-She may want to try have a clitoral orgasm first before trying this to get her warmed up. Or, stimulate the clitoris and G-spot simultaneously for a combined orgasm. Sometimes this makes it easier for her to experience a Gs-pot orgasm, as she is experiencing it with something she is already familiar with (clitoral orgasm), and the pleasure will help move her over the edge.
-G-spot stimulation can feel weird, uncomfortable, yucky, even painful to some women. Usually at first it feels strange, and like you have to pee. But, if you can get over that and just feel the pleasure and let it happen, then usually you can squirt.
-Inability to squirt or have a G-spot orgasm is likely 90% mental. Many women are in their heads during pleasure/sex, and can't get into their bodies to FEEL pleasure. Orgasmic breathing and being very relaxed can help this, so you can focus just on the pleasure and not worry about other things. This is one of the biggest obstacles women have with any type of orgasm. Learn how to feel without judgement.
There is a lot more advice I could give on this subject, including exact techniques, etc... This is just a brief overview.
If you'd like more info about this you can read my blog post on my profile here on SF titled: "Top 10 G Spot Facts, Or, How to Find & Pleasure YOUR G Spot".
Or feel free to ask me more questions. I'm known as Gspot Girl in some places and am an expert in this area. Plus I'm a certified Loveologist as well.
I have also worked hands on with women teaching them how to squirt both in physical space and via the internet.
Posted Wed Dec 16, 2015 12:50 PM
This post has been edited by White.Rabbit: Wed Dec 16, 2015 01:08 PM
Posted Tue Dec 29, 2015 10:37 PM
I second this.
Videos are great ways to get ideas, but I would never have the expectation that sex with your partner will or should be like what you see in a porn.
Posted Sat Jan 02, 2016 10:55 PM
I hope this is helpful. Any more questions... feel free to ask us, we have been working on this skill for quite a while and I can honestly say I can squirt quite well now
Posted Tue Jan 05, 2016 04:22 AM
Posted Tue Jan 05, 2016 04:55 AM
This post has been edited by White.Rabbit: Tue Jan 05, 2016 04:57 AM
Posted Wed Jan 06, 2016 01:47 AM
Posted Thu Jan 07, 2016 02:46 AM
We expel lots of different fluids during sex. The one some "squirt", the one in big volume, is urine.
Some women and some men are fine with pee play and more power to them. Some are not. Everything between consenting is fine.
See: Salama, S., Boitrelle, F., Gauquelin, A., Malagrida, L., Thiounn, N., & Desvaux, P.
Nature and origin of “squirting” in female sexuality. The Journal of Sexual Medicine.