Here I am Asking for More Advice
Posted Mon Jan 05, 2009 01:33 PM
So I was talking with her on myspace the other day and we got talking about the past and our regrets and everything. Well, I decided to tell her that I had liked her back in the day, and that I regret never having asked her out. That I liked her too much to try and risk ruining our friendship over. She responded that she had always hoped Iíd ask her, and that a nice guy like me is something sheís always been searching for but she didnít feel she deserved to be with a nice person.
Anyways, Iím not even sure if I like her the same way I used to, just because itís been almost 5 years since I last spoke with her. Anyways, I donít mind talking with her, but sheís constantly sending me text messages and e-mails online about how much she loves me, and itís quite a bit intimidating to be honest. I mean, Iíve changed quite a bit since I was 16 (when I first met her) until now at 24. I donít want to say I love her because I donít really know if I doÖ
Does this make sense to anyone?
Posted Mon Jan 05, 2009 02:05 PM
Posted Mon Jan 05, 2009 02:51 PM
pretty cool she responded positively
no reason to say anything you don't feel..
explore the connection you have with her!! see where it ends up.. are you guys close by distance?? i mean can you ask her out to dinner or something?
Posted Mon Jan 05, 2009 03:08 PM
buuut it does complicate things that's for sure
i'd definitely keep it alive if i was in your situation
Posted Mon Jan 05, 2009 03:36 PM
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Posted Mon Jan 05, 2009 05:29 PM
It just scares me is all, I've never been in a serious relationship before, so everything is new to me.
We were talking on the phone for a few hours the other night (usually my phone calls don't go past 10 minutes) and she was already talking about if I go back to Michigan or anything I can come visit and sleep in her bed with her, spooning.
Which sounds all good but that's just really fast for me. I mean, I've only been talking with her again for a week and that's already the first thing on her mind? I wish I could be as vocal about my feelings as I am here, but it just scares the daylights out of me.
Posted Mon Jan 05, 2009 05:44 PM
Definately see where it goes but be upfront that you want to take things easy and there are no guarentees.
Perhaps visit her on the bases of a catchup.
She seems to be emotionally vulnerable.
Posted Mon Jan 05, 2009 06:27 PM
just bring it up, and talk to her the way you talk to us about it..
it's important to go at a comfortable speed.. if she's at all good for you she will be willing to slow down