Did she or didn't she?
Posted Tue May 31, 2016 08:04 AM
On this particular night we were messaging each other and she said there was a group of guys buying them drinks and dancing with them. We went back and forth about her being horny and in a place where she could easily satisfy her physical needs without me around. She plainly denied having any interest. Jokingly I told her that the one guy she claimed to be hitting on her non-stop should receive at least a token handjob. A few minutes later she said her phone was dying and she would talk to me when she got back to her room. That was the last thing I heard until the next morning when she was leaving the hotel for the airport.
A few days later I noticed she was acting a little different when I brought up the fantasy role play idea in a message to her while she was at home one evening and I was working later than usual. After some prodding she said that she slow danced with this guy, he had his hand on her ass the whole time on the dance floor, she sat on his knee at the table and admitted she was turned on by what felt like an unusually large package in his pants (although she said she could see it but didn't touch it). I was also taken aback when she and I had sex shortly after she returned and instead of the usual positions, she instigated the position where she's on her back/side, leaning on an arm with a leg in the air and I'm in behind her. This is something she has never done before and when I asked afterwards she just said it was "something different and wanted to try it". Between that and the fact her phone went dead in the bar and she never messaged me until late the next morning has me wondering.
I'm trying to convince myself nothing happened although the fantasy thoughts make me wish it did. If she did do it and had just told me from the outset, I would be turned on for her more than ever now. Conversely, if she did it and withheld that information from me, I think part of me would still be excited but the other part would be insanely upset with her. She is a wonderful professional woman and a great mother who has never strayed and has said she never will. But it's making me wonder if she broke down and did it with him. Thoughts?
Posted Tue May 31, 2016 09:06 AM
I asked her many times if she fucked him or not and she swore she did not. Bigger part of me believed her because I knew her for a long time and I knew every time she was lying to me, but that smaller part didn't buy it. So I still think that there is a possibility that she did fuck him, or at least she sucked his cock or gave him a handjob, but there is also a much bigger possibility that nothing happened.
So you know your wife better than anyone, but if you seek my opinion based on a personal experience and your post above, I would rather say that she didn't fuck him in the end.
Posted Tue May 31, 2016 09:30 AM
Posted Tue May 31, 2016 09:47 AM
It appears from your intuition that you think something did go on - I don't think you say if you've asked her and my view is that you need to resolve this with a conversation or it could begin to eat away at you.
Here comes the trust bit; I then think you have to either take her at her word and trust her or you have to trust your intuition that things are different because something definitely happened and then deal with that.
In the end I don't think our vote should support your decision - only you know her and my gut feeling is that because you've raised it here, it's an issue that you need to resolve with her ... and perhaps quickly, too.
Posted Tue May 31, 2016 10:05 PM
Posted Fri Jun 03, 2016 08:18 AM
Once I know the truth (and I doubt I ever will) I would still fuck her. But a lot harder and longer than I ever have before.
Posted Fri Jun 03, 2016 06:12 PM