Need Some Advice.
Posted Sun Feb 08, 2009 01:04 AM
- I am dating a girl who lives in the UK. We have liked each other for 2 years, but neither of us had the courage to tell the other because we didn't know how the other felt.
- It is purely a technology relationship, until I go over there in about 10 months and she comes back with me for about 3 months, then I will move there to live with her.
- She says she will never cheat on me, I should trust her, she loves me and I am the only one she wants forever and she will never leave.
- I believe that since she trusts me that I will not cheat and that I will love her forever and never leave her, that I should return the favor and trust her and believe her in what she says.
- We have been dating for almost 5 months.
Ok, so she went to a party today. Obviously, I was not there. We spoke in TXTs. Before she went, she told me to not worry about anything and she would never cheat on me. She went with her best friend to this party. Anyway, she TXTs me and tells me that the party was "weird" and that people were acting "weird". I asked her what this meant, but she won't tell me what was "weird". She says that people were just acting weird, and there was too much to say and it didn't matter. She told me not to worry, nothing was wrong, I didnt need to worry about anything. At the end of each TXT she told me how much she missed me and loved me and how much she missed being able to talk to me. Every time I asked her what she meant by "weird" and if anything happened, I received the same exact TXT saying to not worry and that she was safe like she knew she would be. This happened four times because I TXTed her four times asking what she meant by "weird" and telling her she could tell me whatever it was and I wouldn't get angry. This means that I got the same response (a duplicate TXT) four times for each TXT I sent her.
My question is: Should I be worried? Should I bring it up when we talk tomorrow? Should I just let it go....and trust her that nothing happened? I am so worried and insecure that I cannot just let it slide from my head what she meant by "weird". I have been asking advice of some of my friends, and they all have said to just let it go and trust her. I guess I am trying to receive some support in this matter from the SexForums community. Should I ignore it, let it go? Should I not bring it up when we talk tomorrow? If any of you need any more information about this....please just ask for it. I don't want to start another argument with her about how I don't trust her and am insecure. I have been hurt loads of times by different girls (and no, not all have been technology relationships), so I am a bit, ok a lot, insecure and protective. Thank you everyone who took the time to read this extremely long post. It is very much appreciated. Very much.
Posted Sun Feb 08, 2009 02:34 AM
Sorry if my answer is a bit odd or short or incomplete at all. Running on 3 hours of sleep. If there are any questions you have for me, feel free to ask and I will answer as best I can. Best of luck to you.
Posted Sun Feb 08, 2009 08:16 AM
Posted Sun Feb 08, 2009 08:34 AM
I also have dealt with personal feelings of trying to find the balance between loving support, and annyoying pestering of my GF, and have found that when in doubt, us guys should stand back instead of trying to force our ways into every detail of our loved ones lives. It is hard sometimes, but the alternative is to be that "crazy insecure BF who only stresses everyone out." Dont be that guy~!
Posted Sun Feb 08, 2009 08:47 AM
Don't pressure her, in case anything happened, or she will clam up and never tell you or anybody.
I think she just kept her head and nothing happened, though, so I would just be supportive without flooding her with support.
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Posted Sun Feb 08, 2009 06:26 PM
Thank you for the kudos, but as of right now something is wrong and I have no idea what it is. I won't bore SexForums with asking for any more advice, there is always something going on. We have been through a lot of stuff. She stops talking to me about 3 hours ago saying she had to go "Make up my Mum's bed". And, she wasn't acting herself before that. Oh well. Hopefully love will prevail.