Vday dilemma... sorta
Posted Fri Feb 13, 2009 03:00 PM
I have a friend who broke up with his GF of six months about 2 months ago. She's pretty hot and she's been flirting with a lot of his friends since they broke up, which he has told me bothers him a bit. Granted he told me this at a time where she was sitting on his best friend's lap at a party we were at a few days after they broke up. For all i know he might not even care now, though he does still talk to her.
Anyway she's generally a flirty girl and she was even before they got together. Recently one of my other friends told me that she thinks I'm "cute". I wasn't sure what to think because she's the hottest girl that's ever showed an interest in me, but also because I'm not sure if I should mess around with her in light of the fact that she recently broke up with my friend. Today I was sitting in a class I happen to have with her when she put a little decorated heart on my desk with her number on the back (day before valentines day). She only did this for me, I asked other people.
Not sure what to do. Will I be the jerk if something happens and my friend gets hurt, or should I just forget about it and go for it?
Posted Fri Feb 13, 2009 03:05 PM
Posted Sun Feb 15, 2009 01:34 AM
Posted Sun Feb 15, 2009 11:31 AM
I would talk to your friend about the girl.
He may not have any problem with it but if he does you have to decide what is more important your friendship with him or this chick.
Posted Sun Feb 15, 2009 12:00 PM
Its already been said, but talk to your friend about it, find out his point of view.. your friendship is more important than a relationship you havnt had yet...
Posted Mon Feb 16, 2009 12:30 AM
Think about this: A third of the time they were dating has passed already. I'd say go for it, but just mention it to him. Don't ask for permission.
Posted Mon Feb 16, 2009 04:53 AM
Posted Mon Feb 16, 2009 12:44 PM
talk to him, see what he thinks, but even if he says its ok, you need to read his body language cause he may say its ok but really its not like!!!
so just becarefull!!! dont tell him about the valentine or anything cause that could annoy him, just say u've heard shes interested and u are as wel! see how it goes!!!
dont loose a friend over a girl!!!
Posted Mon Feb 16, 2009 08:54 PM
Posted Mon Feb 16, 2009 09:48 PM
Don't do it, unless you don't want to be friends with him for long.
Posted Tue Feb 17, 2009 11:30 PM
im not cruel, im realistic. ive been fucked over both ways by situations like this, and its fuckin stupid. oh here let me dump you for your friend....or let me fuck with your head and go date your best friend......and they both talk to you about it, but still do whatever the fuck they want.
if they legitimately broke up, and you werent a deciding factor, then it does not make a difference. a true friend will not care, and since he dumped her, he isnt still emotionally tied to her.
even if at first he cares, he will get over it. i did, and i am the most unforgiving person you can meet. if you fuck up bad around me, your fuckin gone.