Female Orgasm During Penetration
Posted Wed Feb 18, 2009 06:34 AM
I understand a thread along similar lines has probably been posted many times before, but i did a search and didn't come up with anything.
I've been with my partner for almost a year now, we are both very open with each other when it comes to sex, what we like, what we don't etc. We are very relaxed in each others company.
The sex is fantastic, and recently she told me I am the only partner she's had that has satisfied her sexually. Now, wether this is entirely true Im not sure, but she sure as hell is satisfied!
However, we never seem to be able to make her orgasm from penetrative sex. I has happened twice before, once without any clitoral stimulation and secondly with.
Its not a problem that she cannot orgasm, as i more than make up for it with my tongue a couple of times each session.
However, i would really like her to be able to orgasm through penetration alone. I have asked her why she thinks she cannot regularly, and she says in order for her to orgasm during penetration, she needs to concentrate too much. She said she just wants to enjoy fucking and prefers to orgasm through oral sex.
Now id don't particularly mind this, but im sure somewhere back there she wants to orgasm, and i fir sure want her too, as in the past it has been extremely intense!
Just wondering what other peoples thoughts are, especially from the ladies on here. Do you find you have to concentrate to orgasm during penetrative sex, or can you just relax and it will happen?
Do any of you feel the same way?
Any advice would be great,
Posted Wed Feb 18, 2009 09:28 AM
A couple of hints... make sure she knows where her G-spot is, be dilligent in help her find it and try to develop her sensitivity before engaging in oral or penetration. She needs to be extremely aroused with foreplay, but avoid touching her clit even if she's begging for it. Then, stick your finger and gently start rubbing inside while talking to her. She needs to let you know what she's feeling, so that she becomes fully aware of her own sensations. You might engage in a little oral then, but not too much... focus on her spot. Then go in as slow as you can possibly can...
I make no guarantees... every woman is different, but it might be worth trying.
Posted Wed Feb 18, 2009 10:10 AM
i agree, find her gspot for her and teach her where it is.
Posted Wed Feb 18, 2009 10:41 AM
It doesnt seem to be an issue with where her g spot is, as we both know and make sure to stimulate it as much as possible.
Its more to do with the concentration needed for her to come to orgasm during penetration, as opposed to just letting it all out and enjoying the sex. Its definitely weird.
Posted Wed Feb 18, 2009 12:19 PM
One that has been successfu for me is missionary with her legs around your arms pushing them towards her body.
I know froma fellas perspective that if im nt concentrating or in the mood it takes longer for e to cum. But its very rare that im nt in the mood or cocentrating!!!lol
Posted Wed Feb 18, 2009 04:08 PM
Before I was able to will my body into orgasming through simulating the way my body goes before it does, I found it very hard to come from penetration.
I read somewhere that by mind and body simulation you could get your body in the orgasm mindset and it works. Takes a little practice but it works.
For example I know that when I hav an orgasm building, my legs go tense, my pelvis stiffens and my breathing becomes heavier and more erratic.
I gave that a go and gave myself a mindblowing orgasm through mindpower during sex.
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Posted Wed Mar 04, 2009 05:25 PM
I find it interesting that several people mentioned doggie because I think that's the only position I have never cum in, even with clit stimulation! How ever I must also say that it's probably my a favorite position, (but not of course because I can't cum that way). I just really really like the way the penetration feels from the rear. The angle and depth just really feel nice to me in that position.
Cowgirl is the one that's easiest position for me to cum, using clit stimulation w/penetration. I think it's because I can feel/know what I need and adjust the rhythm, angle and depth myself. I suppose theoretically that an exquisitely attuned lover could make those adjustments and bring me to orgasm, based on observing me and my state of excitation as he penetrated, but unfortunately I haven't met him yet
I think that's a hard thing to do, but hey, if you're game to try, I can't see how your girl would not enjoy your efforts. UNLESS it becomes such a goal that sex becomes a pass/fail ... win/lose situation.
As far as I'm concerned it should be a playful romp, without rigid targeted end point.
Posted Wed Mar 04, 2009 05:34 PM
Use oral untill she's near breaking point and then penetrate her. Also rub her clitoris with your fingers during penetration. You will get results.
Posted Wed Mar 04, 2009 05:47 PM
thats so true its not even funny!!! lol