i cant help but ask
Posted Sun Mar 01, 2009 01:31 AM
Posted Sun Mar 01, 2009 04:26 AM
Guys don't seem to realise that for us, it's the whole package. Sure, a really ugly guy is starting off with two strikes against, but we don't *only* see the pretty (or not) face, we see body language and other manifestations of attitude. I see so many guys who at first glance interest me, and then after 5 seconds I dismiss them because I just see "asshole" written across their foreheads in big red block capitals.
You only get once chance to make a first impressionm, and only the people you actually meet are going to be able to tell you what that impression is. Maybe you are coming across as too earnest, too loud, or just uninteresting -who knows, it could be lots of things. Don't give up! Keep working at making your *personality* attractive, you are a good-looking enough guy!
Posted Sun Mar 01, 2009 05:12 AM
Posted Sun Mar 01, 2009 06:35 AM
Attitude, attitude, attitude... what Q is walking about is "not enough" (i.e. coming across insecure/ not confident / whatever). What I was referring to earlier is "too much" (overconfidence / arrogance).
Neither of us is saying that's your problem - there are a lot of self-help books out there that could help. You could join Toastmasters, or go skydiving, or... lots of things!
I wish you the very best of fortune!
Posted Sun Mar 01, 2009 11:13 AM
Confidence or lack of comes across and ladies don't just choose who they sleep with by looks. If you have any girl friends I would ask them if there is something you are doing that would make girls not want to be with you.
Posted Sun Mar 01, 2009 03:02 PM
Posted Sun Mar 01, 2009 04:12 PM
Posted Sun Mar 01, 2009 04:24 PM
Posted Sun Mar 01, 2009 06:34 PM
I believe you are exactly correct.
The shirt doesn't personally do anything for me either.
The ladies have said that you aren't a bad looking guy. So I believe it now comes down to how you wrap and sell the package.
Posted Sun Mar 01, 2009 07:55 PM
Now that was a sweet thing to say Biggie
Seriously, I didn't want to mention dress sense because I am 10 years older and don't really "get" the way college & younger kids dress today - beanies and pants around the arse. Personally I think that is not likely to be the big issue here, most girls the same age as Eclipsed prolly won't mind the hat - or even if he does take his skateboard along on their first date...
Posted Sun Mar 01, 2009 08:29 PM
Posted Sun Mar 01, 2009 10:42 PM
Posted Mon Mar 02, 2009 02:18 AM
i meany id kiss you...
Maybe your shy or something?
Posted Mon Mar 02, 2009 02:36 AM
But body language says it all.. if you are feeling unnatractive it has negative consequences on your body language...
Just have fun.. be yourself... dont worry about what people think..
you could always post pics here for us to drool over until you realise you are yummy?
I won't mind
Posted Mon Mar 02, 2009 03:17 AM
Because it needed to be said again.
Make a game with your friends to see how many numbers you can get with the worst pickup line. It'll ease up some of the pressure and help you relax. Bonus points if you make them laugh.
And smile damnit!