A ???? for the ladies!
Posted Thu Mar 05, 2009 06:11 PM
This may be TMI, so sorry!
In the last few months or so I have noticed that I am tighter, not skin tight, but I actually feel like my pelvis/vaginal area is smaller.... It is like my vagina doesn't want to have sex, I have sex and it hurts so the next time I go to have sex - my vagina tenses up and I can't get his penis in.... and my vagina is not discriminating lol it also wont accept my lovely glass dildo (I honestly don't know what I am more upset about ) I sit on the toilet after sex and I am in pain, so much so that I am nearly crying, I have been stretched so much that it hurts to wee and I have flashbacks of weeing after labour....
I still have my drive (also it has diminished quite a bit) but talking my hubby into having sex with me is an absolute mission in itself as he is afraid of hurting me........ The foreplay is good, I get nice and lubed up, but I really can't take any more than a finger before it hurts.... he is so considerate and we try all different positions, but it seems that the only thing that doesn't hurt is when he just puts the head in and out.... no deeper!!!! then I get really turned on, tell him to slam me, he does, we both cum and then I sit on the toilet and cry in pain......
A bit about me... 32yo / not preg / vaginal delivery 2y ago - with minimal tearing / hubby is around 6/7 inch
I'm off to the Dr's next week so I will be asking her about it, but just wondered if anyone else had gone through this.
Posted Fri Mar 06, 2009 01:42 AM
Are you taking any kind of meds?
How long does the pain last?
Have you looked down there to see if everything looks normal? If so has there been any color change, like redness or black and blue like a bruise?
Posted Fri Mar 06, 2009 05:01 AM
Are you taking any kind of meds? Nothing different to the same meds that I have been on for the last 3 yrs
How long does the pain last? The pain during sex that actually feels like my vagina is clamping shut only happens during penetration..... Although I then feel stretched (lips/mouth of vagina) for around 10-15min and it really hurts to urinate (it feels really similar to after labour when your lips are grazed). I don't mind the stretched feeling as I usually feel like that if we have had sex for a few hours.... it just freaks me out that It hurts to urinate
Have you looked down there to see if everything looks normal? If so has there been any color change, like redness or black and blue like a bruise? No colour changes, still looks like normal, neither of my lips are enlarged, no bruising.
Posted Mon Mar 09, 2009 03:42 PM
I know the feeling you're talking about it is pretty horrible. Only ever experienced it after labour though.
I suggest you go to the Dr. I'd say they'll do an internal though so maybe just be prepared for that.
Is this affecting your relationship too? Fuck its hard being a woman somettimes, isn't it?
Good luck, I hope you figure it out. xx
Posted Wed Mar 11, 2009 12:20 AM
I know what you mean. My hubby and I only waited 3 weeks to have sex after our daughter was born and it felt like what you are discribbing at first, but the pain subsided after the pleasure kicked in. But that was before the recomended 6 weeks and not 2 years later, so I'd say at this point don't suffer see your doctor.
Posted Fri Mar 13, 2009 12:16 AM
It seems to have gone away on it's own.....I think it was due to stress and the fact that I have been sick for a bit...
I'm a hard and rough kinda girl and we have been taking it easy to get my body used to hard loving again....
Missy it hasn't effected our relationship... my hubby is wonderful and supportive so I'm very lucky
Thanks again girls, I appreciate it xo
Posted Wed Apr 01, 2009 11:05 AM
Relieved to hear it went away....RQ...