Posted Sun Mar 08, 2009 07:37 PM
So this has begun to make me wonder. How can I have sex with her when I can barely a finger in there? How would I go about loosening her vagina? It seems simple but after a month of doing this and it still not being much looser, I feel it might be much longer than I have presumed. Would I initially go down on her, make her orgasm, and then with the extra lubrication be able to do it? Should I take it slower? Should we just do this more? Should I just say "fuck it" and jam two fingers in there? (I think that would be the worse choice) But for the time being I am at a loss.
On a side note, I have no idea if this make a difference, but she is Korean. I have heard from various people that Asian women are exceptionally tight, this may be the reason for my predicament, or does it not even matter?
Posted Sun Mar 08, 2009 07:40 PM
Posted Sun Mar 08, 2009 07:51 PM
Posted Sun Mar 08, 2009 07:57 PM
Foreplay : There's no such thing as too much ! The more aroused & wet she gets the easier things will go , plus foreplay will relax her both physically & mentally making sex easier for ye both >:]
Lube : Once again the more the better ! When you think you've used enough , add 2 mire big sploots >:]
The last & most important thing is patience . Take everything extra slow , savor each & every delicious second , rush NOTHING ! Taking all night to do this right is a great thing ! Remember this is a once in a lifetime gift your giving each other , make it as special as possible & I hope you both have a very beautiful life experience .
Posted Mon Mar 09, 2009 10:36 AM
In keeping with what Q said: go slow. Not just when you're with her, but look at this like something you're sharing with her, that is really special, that can unfold over the course of months. If you've already noticed that she's getting looser, then keep on doing what you're doing.
If one finger works, and it feels good for her, keep on doing that for a while. Weeks and weeks if you need to. As she gets used to it, she'll learn to relax her muscles, and eventually you can get two into her. She might be nervous, especially if she thinks that you want to have sex soon. So take your time, and enjoy each other.
You say that this "irks" you. I'd look at it differently. Consider: You're with a girl that you care for, and with whom you communicate very well. You guys talk about sex easily, and she is able to receive 1 finger. Plus, she's even willing to try to take another, even if she can't. This is a really great situation, and you two are very lucky! Take your time, and treat her like gold. When you're both ready to have sex, it'll be really special, and it's going to feel incredible. Some guys would die for a woman who is really tight.
I would go at a pace at which she never feels any pain. Tightness, yes. But not pain. Have patience. It'll be worth it in the long run.
Never ever ever ever simply "jam" two fingers into her. I know you're joking (I hope), but that will definately destroy the chance of you, and anyone else, having sex with her for a long long time.
Posted Mon Mar 09, 2009 01:42 PM
Now there is another thing in mind though, she wants to have sex. Or make that, she would have sex if she was looser. She enjoys my company and what I can give her, and like I said we have talked about it a few times. The main reason that we have not yet is she thinks it will hurt because, like I've said, she is very tight.
So how would we go about that obstacle? I mean, we both think we are ready, we both love each other very much, and we both would like to have sex. Except for that one detail, I'm guessing the only way to loosen her up is with time?
Posted Mon Mar 09, 2009 04:52 PM
But it's not just "time". It's time spent making out, fingering her, talking, sucking, nibbling, snuggling, exploring...
Penetration is only one aspect of sex, and in my books, it's not the most important part. I would have never dreamt that when I was a virgin though. So I understand being a bit impatient. But good things cum to those who wait.