Friends with Exes?
Posted Mon Mar 09, 2009 10:32 PM
If so, why? Do you allow a cool-down period after the breakup? How long? And what's it like being friends? Do you have to start a new friendship, from scratch?
And what if your relationship revolved around sex and physical chemistry? Does that fade?
Or do you ever think: forget it. we had a great relationship, and let's let each other go.
I know, it's lot of questions. For whoever is inclined to answer, share whatever you feel like. Yes, there's a back story to this question: I'm wondering how to respond to an ex's request to become friends, even though it ended really badly, but she's extremely motivated to be friends with all her exes, not just me. But I'd just as soon let it go. There was a 14 year age difference, and it caused big problems, that I didn't figure out till well into things (maybe I should have known better...but that's another story for another day.)
thanks for your thoughts on this.
Posted Mon Mar 09, 2009 11:08 PM
Actually, I broke up with her. It was still painful though, for both. But I felt like you were sticking up for me in your post, and that was nice of you.
Posted Tue Mar 10, 2009 03:36 AM
I've heard some stories of people staying friends, but they're usually the couples that just seem to fall out of love with each other, but are still good friends, no animosity or anything like that...
Posted Tue Mar 10, 2009 08:21 AM
It's perfectly doable if both parties want to remain friends. My ex and I have no feelings beyond friendship for each other. Anything that we used to feel for each other has completely died and now we're great mates and that's all we'll ever be
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Posted Wed Mar 11, 2009 07:11 PM
Plus the two that I tried to be friends with, took my friendship the wrong way and wanted to be fuck buddies. I declined, as that's just a bad route to take. They both called me a slut and told me to get the fuck away from them. >< Don't know what I do wrong...
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