How many hints do I have to drop to this man?!
Posted Wed Mar 11, 2009 02:08 AM
I have shown him my dress, I have shown him our wine glasses for pity sake!! I have lived with him for almost 5 months!! Why does he continue to think I don't want to be with him?! I mean yes his first girlfriend cheated on him (I'm his second) but that was 4 years ago!!! I was in a bad relationship where I was used and thrown away 2 1/3 years ago and he has helped mend my heart!! Is it that he is still somewhere in him scared I'd cheat?! After everything could that be it? Or is it something else?! I know he is hiding something because when I asked about it he said it was cause the ring he wanted to get me was 1,000 dollars. I know that's not the reason! He just bought me a 700 dollar dell laptop!!! He makes 400-700 dollars a week!!! MONEY IS NOT THE ISSUE! So what is? I'm so confused and lost here....
Posted Wed Mar 11, 2009 03:16 AM
Posted Wed Mar 11, 2009 03:50 AM
Besides, if you love each other, no point in rushing a marriage. Just looks like your afraid to lose him or something which if you love him shouldn't be the case. When the times right he'll ask. If he doesn't then things change. Your brain chemistry doesn't finish sorting things out till your mid twenties, you won't be who you are now then, so in my opinion he's doing the smart thing by waiting to make sure neither of you change to much.
Posted Wed Mar 11, 2009 04:24 AM
You guys are still young, just go with the flow and don't worry about marriage just yet.
Posted Wed Mar 11, 2009 05:54 AM
Perhaps he wants it to be the perfect moment....
Posted Wed Mar 11, 2009 06:40 AM
My parents got married young and are still together too ...
I think he is a bit afraid of your reaction...
You think of it, you showed the dresses, but he doesn't know if you really mean it.
Maybe tell him you want to stay with him forever, etc...
Posted Wed Mar 11, 2009 08:18 AM
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Posted Wed Mar 11, 2009 12:26 PM
I've gotta be blunt. Your an idiot if you think marriage means you'll never lose someone. My mom was divorced 3 times before I was born and she's not remarried after her and my dad split. Seriously, you don't want to lose him? Then trust that you won't. That's the only thing you can do. A ring, a wedding, these are all very lovely things. But lifes no fairytale kid. Marriages don't always last, trust on the other hand is a beautiful thing when shared between two people who love each other, more so in my opinion than a ring on their fingers.
Posted Wed Mar 11, 2009 01:25 PM
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Posted Thu Mar 12, 2009 02:16 AM
Whoa, you're an idiot.
Just cuz he puts a ring on your finger doesn't mean you won't loose him. Ever heard of divorice?