Does anyone else have body image issues?
Posted Sun Mar 15, 2009 11:26 PM
For some reason I still feel very uncomfortable with my naked body. I feel like it's holding me back from having sex, too. I'm terrified of being rejected once the clothes come off. I'm also a virgin.
Anyone else have this experience?
Posted Sun Mar 15, 2009 11:57 PM
Posted Sun Mar 15, 2009 11:58 PM
I lost 40kg after having my baby and struggled with body image issues..... You just have to learn to love yourself....because if you don't find yourself attractive.... no one else will..
Posted Mon Mar 16, 2009 12:01 AM
I used to have bad body image issues too, I'm 5'10 and was getting a little on the heavier side from being lazy. I have lost 55lbs over the last year and 1/2 and never have felt better about myself. It took time though to get that confidence back but it does come to you. Most girls if they like you and want to have sex with you are not going to stop once the clothing comes off you sound just right so you have nothing to worry about.
Posted Mon Mar 16, 2009 12:10 AM
Posted Mon Mar 16, 2009 03:32 AM
Posted Mon Mar 16, 2009 04:56 AM
Posted Mon Mar 16, 2009 07:50 AM
I have a feeling it's harder for guys, my SO is a big boy and he still leaves his shirt on while we're having sex... although I have a feeling it's partially to keep the sweat away as we both get hot and sweaty before the end.
I just say, be comfortable with who you are, not matter what you look like and others will see you the same way, you'll meet someone nice one day and you shouldn't let your self doubts get in the way of something that could blossom between you.
Posted Mon Mar 16, 2009 12:41 PM
Posted Mon Mar 16, 2009 01:00 PM
Congrats on your weight loss.
Posted Mon Mar 16, 2009 05:57 PM
Posted Mon Mar 16, 2009 06:28 PM
Posted Mon Mar 16, 2009 06:29 PM
Posted Mon Mar 16, 2009 06:44 PM
And just in case you wondered, I love myself. I can not help how I look and if people choose to turn me down because they don't like how I look it is their loss not mine. I'm a good lover, a sensible man and a romantic spirit. What's not to love?
Posted Mon Mar 16, 2009 09:20 PM
I am a bigger woman...
it makes me feel so bad when I see all these girls who are a size 12 or 14 saying they are fat... it's like "if you think YOU are fat, then you must think that I am a whale!"
for example, my cousin... she's like 5'4" and 100lbs soaking wet and she is constantly saying she is fat... but yet wears like a size 1 pants... makes me want to cry.
No I dont want to be that thin... but just shopping in the "normal" sized section at stores would be great.
Posted Tue Mar 17, 2009 07:03 PM
Posted Wed Mar 18, 2009 12:34 AM
My dtr several times recnetly has exclaimed, "Mommy, you were so skinny, it's disgusting!" And I'm thinking , "Huh? what? but I thought I was FAT!"
And I try to explain it to her and I tried to avoid such issues with her by never criticizing etc BUT still she's got "issues".... AND I think she's perfect...
For the record in the pics that she's looking at when she saits I was "so skinny" I was prob 5'7" and 135#. Now (25 years later) I'm 180#. SHe's 5'10" and 160#. She's heavier but taller and bigger boned. I'm middle aged. It all makes sense.
I'm wondering if when I'm 80, if I'll be chastizing myself about, feeling unattractive at this age.... in hte same manner that I do thinking back on my earlier year, now.
OH and another comment, sorta related...
In the past 6months, after engaging in essentially psychotherapy and looking at myself and all my insecurities AND after having much of those insecurities accepted and understood AND after picking up some hot "dates" here and elsewhere online, I have found myself feeling totally and completely a sensual/sexual animal and have been far more accepting of my body lately than EVER before. There is NO doubt, it is all in our heads and it has nothing tp do with the actual physical shape of our bodies.
Posted Wed Mar 18, 2009 03:43 AM
Posted Wed Mar 18, 2009 05:31 AM
It's human nature to not be able to get past our own flaws or what we seem to think are flaws.
I've lost 50lbs since my daughter was born 4.5 months ago and I still want to loose another 30-40lbs. I have a 3" scar on one of my breast from where a tumor was removed almost 7 years ago, stretch marks from having three kids and my stomach skin is still loose from the last pregnancy.
I'm 38 years old and wish I had the body I did back when I was 21 and working at Hooters, but I know that will never be again. I can only strive to be happy with what I've been given to work with and try to work around my work schedule to better my body.
My husband has never seen me smaller than a size 8-10 but loves every one of my curves, yet I still try to hide the sight of my body from him at times.
What makes me feel better is when I climb into bed and my husband is already errect and that men still watch me when I walk by.
And of course everyone on here has been very kind in responce to my pics doesn't hurt either!!