Girlfriend Can't Orgasm
Posted Wed Mar 18, 2009 01:30 AM
I've been having this issue with my g/f and it's starting to affect me personally in the bedroom. No matter how hard I try, what technique I use, what position we try I just simply can't get her to orgasm. She told me exactly what the problem is to but there is nothing I can really do to fix it. Well, two problems.
First off, She likes to have sex hard and fast, with deep penetration. I can deliver this but she takes such a long time to orgasm that I find myself slowing down so I don't cum first. 99% of the time I slow down just as she's about to reach orgasm than looses it since I need to change pace.
Secondly, clitoral stimulation is what she needs. I can't give her the jackhammer while contorted like a pretzel while rubbing her clit at the same time. It's no seceret that men can't multitask
I've tried everything, foreplay helps get her extremely wet and ready to go. But again, it would probably involve a few hours of straight up oral sex to get her to orgasm. She brought up the idea of her rubbing her own clit (which works) during sex and I'm okay with that, and not at the same time. I'd like to be able to get her off on my own. But man, I don't have the stamina to jackhammer her for 25-30 mins (which is what it takes). She's told me once that she is one of those girls thats extremely difficult to get off, and it rarely happens. Than contradicted herself by talking about an ex of hers who (in her words) "Could get me off just by looking at me". She has him put so high on this pedastool that I want to topple it (again, pride issue).
Any tips? Anything I can do?
Posted Wed Mar 18, 2009 03:00 AM
Posted Wed Mar 18, 2009 11:00 AM
You're just going to have to let her rub her own clit if that is the only way she can get off. It's either that or nothing.
Posted Wed Mar 18, 2009 11:25 AM
Young Buck said:
I agree. The fact she is contradicting herself would be enough for me. You shouldn't have to live up to another guy, she should be happy enough with what you try to do for her. I doubt her ex did as much as you do. I also doubt she really means it when she says her ex could get her off so easily. She says she is hard to get off, but then says that about her ex? Interesting, very interesting. I wouldn't mess with this for much longer.
Posted Wed Mar 18, 2009 12:29 PM
if you cant get her to come she should learn how to ride your dick. if she cant make herself come then she should practice abstinence and stop whining. really, why such an issue, it is somewhat difficult to hit that perfect spot and do all the other things women like you to do during sex.
i bought a fingertip vibrator for my lady. she'll use it sometimes while im fucking her. if all else fails, go buy the biggest dildo you can find and tell her to go fuck herself or call her ex.
Posted Wed Mar 18, 2009 02:25 PM
I agree with this 100%
If she can't get herself off, something is wrong with her.
Doggy is about the best way to get a girl off, rub her clit also during it man. Going to have to lower the pride on this one.
Posted Fri Mar 20, 2009 01:58 AM
Posted Fri Mar 20, 2009 03:12 AM
also grind down on her alot...
What a bitch for talking about her ex tho...
Posted Fri Mar 20, 2009 03:42 AM
Posted Fri Mar 20, 2009 05:43 AM
Posted Sat Mar 21, 2009 01:26 AM
Anyways, I found the trick and it works just not something i'd do EVERY time were in the bedroom. An obscene amount of foreplay works, bringing her *almost* to the point of climax than just stopping. I wait until she is begging for me to be in her and once i'm there it doesn't take long to get her off. Being a guitar player, I just so happen to be extremely good with my hands. I can stretch them and contort them in positions not many people can, and my hands don't tire easily