A Quick Question.
Posted Thu Mar 19, 2009 12:40 AM
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Posted Thu Mar 19, 2009 07:17 AM
It's true however, that there are women who prefer larger penises, but there are also women who prefer them smaller for a number of reasons. The length of the vagina is only 2.5 to 3 inches, and about 4 inches when aroused. So, whoever tells me that only a big penis is going to do it, doesn't quite know what she's talking about in my opinion... that unless she has some specific physiological traits that makes her need bigger.
This is from Wikipedia... and it shows a bonafide study with about a thousand women subjects (not three):
Similar results were found in a cover story published in Psychology Today, which surveyed 1,500 readers (about 2/3 women) about male body image. Many of the women were not particularly concerned with penis size and over 71 percent thought men overemphasized the importance of penis size and shape. Details were examined among the women with a size preference. Generally women cared more about width than men thought, and less about length." ...the number one reason women preferred a thicker penis was that it was more satisfying during intercourse." It's suggested this is because a wider penis provides more friction to the clitoral area while a longer penis reaches an area less stimulable. The same article comments that there is a strong correlation whereby “Women who rated themselves as more attractive were particularly concerned with larger size. Of women describing themselves as "much more attractive than average," 64 percent cared strongly or moderately about penis width and 54 percent cared about penis length. Women who rated their own looks as average were about 20 percentage points lower."
Another study, conducted at Groningen University Hospital, asked 375 sexually active women (who had recently given birth) the importance of penis size and concluded: "Although clearly in the minority, a nevertheless considerable percentage of the women respondents attached substantial importance to the size of the male sexual organ".
A study undertaken at Utrecht University found that the majority of homosexual men in the study regarded a large penis as ideal, and having one was linked to self esteem.
So, what this study is telling you is that the prettier the girl, the more she's going to care about the lenght of a penis... not always, but on average. Also, that women on average don't care too much about length, but like girth. Then, there's evidence that some women who've had children may prefer longer penises, and that long penises are important for gay men. I think this is fairly acurate, and if you find another "study" on the web, please make sure you check its validity in terms of sample size used, sample composition and characteristics, where the study was conducted and by whom.
Please understand that I am not trying to make you feel better about your size, but I'm trying to provide you with facts, so no matter how you feel, you can at least try to see your situation more objectivelly. Finally, and this I can tell you from personal experience, with a smaller penis you can easily rub a clit a and provide vaginal stimulation at the same time, and that to me, is an excellent deal.
Posted Thu Mar 19, 2009 07:42 AM
I'm under 5 inches, and I've satisfied every woman I've ever had. When you're pounding your lover as hard and fast as you can, and she's moaning with pleasure, I doubt she's thinking, wow, this is good, but if he just had another inch or two.
Posted Thu Mar 19, 2009 07:46 AM
i would also say its a safe bet that all the products advertised are sold by the same company
i noticed that they dont even measure correctly
Posted Thu Mar 19, 2009 07:55 AM
Posted Thu Mar 19, 2009 08:16 AM
Of course it's not true. All women don't think the same way. As it's been stated before, some like long, some like short, but many don't really have a preference, just as long as the guy knows what he's doing then it should all be fine. Besides I find having a real connection with a guy makes the sex a whole lot more intense, so personality is a factor and if he's hung up on his dick size then it can be a turn off.
Posted Thu Mar 19, 2009 09:00 AM
Still, you could always make sure your diet is in check to make sure your love rocket is as powered up as it could be. Eating healthy will ensure your cock is as hard as it possibly can which can factor in it's size (obviously). Also, losing any fat around the base can give you an extra 1/2 to a full inch depending how much is there if any at all.
Posted Thu Mar 19, 2009 12:32 PM
Yes I have considered counseling, but I just can't afford it at the moment. I really do want to get some counseling but you know, just can't afford it as I said. And, no I am not comparing my penis to those in porn, this is all from my own judgment.
To respond to SexxxiKate,
No I do not believe she is shallow. I have thought about bringing up this subject with her, but I know that the INSTANT she gets wiff of the fact that I am concerned with my penis size, she will start thinking "Wow it must be really small" and will start to consider breaking up with me *maybe*. On the other hand, if I don't talk to her about it before we move in together, I don't want her being surprised by it and to make any rash decisions (such as leaving me) right then and there.
To the rest of the posters,
Thank you all for your support and thoughts. Maybe they will sink in and help a little bit...although no support or words from others has helped before. Who knows, maybe it will work this time. Thank you so far to everyone who has posted.
Posted Thu Mar 19, 2009 01:06 PM
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Posted Thu Mar 19, 2009 01:26 PM
Losing the extra weight will help you get more of that max visual length, and having her do kegels will help keep things snug. You might even want to use a cock-ring to help keep things nice and plump. Also keeps average size condoms in place in case they get loose enough to be a concern of slippage.
There are some nice benefits to being a size like that such as making it much more comfortable for her giving blowjobs, giving her anal, and being able to go "balls deep" to grind your pelvis against her clit without smacking up against her cervix.
Posted Thu Mar 19, 2009 01:27 PM
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Posted Thu Mar 19, 2009 01:56 PM
But...she hasn't even seen it yet, right?
Has anyone laughed at you for your penis size? Turned you down for sex? Were you unable to give a woman pleasurable sex with your dick?
If you answer no to those, then what's the problem here other than you thinking that you should be bigger regardless if your tool can get the job done. You have it set in your mind, social conditioning or not, that a bigger penis simply means better than what you have, but I'm not sure you've had the experiences to even warrant that way of thinking.
Posted Thu Mar 19, 2009 01:59 PM