HELP, my GF craves attention from guys
Posted Wed Apr 01, 2009 07:34 AM
for example if a guy hits on her and wants to take her out, she wont say "no sorry i got a b/f" insted she will just kinda make up an excuse why she cant go out with him. that way she doesnt push the guy away and is able to keep gettin attention. she likes keeping guys in that "zone" if you know what i mean. Now its not like she treats me bad, we spend pretty much every night together, shes affectionate, tells me she loves me etc... so everything is pretty good, just this stuff with other guys.
Now how concerned should i be? any ladies here do/done this too?
Posted Wed Apr 01, 2009 10:00 AM
You say you've confronted her. Did you tell her it makes you uncomfortable?
Did you tell her you don't like it?
If you didn't say anything along those lines, then she has no reason to stop.
If you did and she still prefers to do it, then it sounds to me like she values the attention from other men more than she values your feelings and your relationship.
You can either deal with it and continue hoping she won't advance beyond flirting, or you can walk away and not have to concern yourself with whether or not she's stepping out on you.
Posted Wed Apr 01, 2009 02:54 PM
My girlfriend works very little. She doesnt go to school. she is home alone all day and I know she could fuck whoever she wanted, whenever.
Heres what she does: she sits on myspace and AIM, text messaging guys and girls. She's Bi- im ok with her being with women but im her only man or im out. She finds recreation in leading guys on that she knows, being flirty and such- too much usually, and then when they come over to hang out with her, i'm sitting on her bed with her. It's the ultimate denial for these guys.
I know she is not cheating and I know she won't (because it'd be really dumb of her, im smart i figure everything out...). I don't even care anymore to be honest. She likes to talk to people, she's spontaneous and flirty, its her personality. And the reason she does it- "I like the attention".
now what you have to figure out- Why does she want attention? are you giving her enough of it? I know i give her PLENTY of attention. She really does it because she was the popular kid in high school and now all she has besides her looks is me. She'll mature out of it in time. She has some depression and anxiety issues, which have complicated most of her life, especially when she was younger.
My advice is to not give a shit. If she cheats, thats it! Usually women like ours are .. well, not to be rude, but not exactly rocket scientists, and seem to be very bad at lying and if you know her good enough, you'll always be able to see right through it and find the truth out.
when i say dont give a shit, just show some trust and let her know you are aware of her being flirty with other guys, and you trust her.
her myspace says 'single'. mine does as well. guess what- two can play! maybe i like to talk to women and play the same games. let her know about all the women you talk to on myspace and facebook who want your cock, just like all those guys that want to fuck her.
i really should just go for an ugly chick in law school or something.... these really hot girls are alot of trouble
Posted Thu Apr 02, 2009 03:25 AM
Posted Thu Apr 02, 2009 05:33 AM
And it's really too bad cause this person was fun to be with and being with her made me feel special. Without trust, you got zip. I suggest thinking about letting her go on her way as much as it hurts. I did and never regretted it. Cause sooner or later...when you are not around..or she is mad at you for one reason or another,she will pull these guys out of the woodwork and cheat on you....and losing her now will save you all that grief. Pick up with another girl who is more like you want her to be and you will be much happier. There is way more in life than looks.
Posted Thu Apr 02, 2009 06:08 AM
I'm sure there are attractive people that have brains too!
Well as for the issue at hand..... I love flirting too but I have only really started doing it.... I wasn't the popular hot girl at school so I guess i'm different there.....
Well to get to my point... my main issue with your predicament is the fact she doesn't admit to being taken.
Posted Thu Apr 02, 2009 01:18 PM
My advice is to flirt with other women, she how she likes it ot tell her it makes you uncomfortable. Gl, keep us updated
Posted Thu Apr 02, 2009 02:20 PM
but i also trust her alot and i have a secret.. im really good in bed ! easiest way to keep a girl is to give her the most mind blowing oral she's ever gotten, to the point where she will never forget you haha
Posted Thu Apr 02, 2009 04:48 PM
Posted Thu Apr 02, 2009 05:02 PM
SmartGuy, I really thought you were smart until I read this... I never wore a ring when I was married, and nobody approached me because it was obvious that I didn't want to be approached. Now, I wear a ring that could easily be mistaken as a wedding ring, and so far it hasn't been a deterrent.
Actually, I was just kidding, I still think you're smart
Posted Thu Apr 02, 2009 09:30 PM
Got a pic of her?