I want her to try new things
Posted Mon Apr 13, 2009 02:07 AM
I really would like her to be more open and able to try new things, is this a problem that we should talk about together??
Posted Mon Apr 13, 2009 04:02 AM
or just stop talking about it entirely, and start experimenting while you're in bed. See what happens.. as long as you don't go too far and switch it up if you start making her uncomfortable.
Posted Mon Apr 13, 2009 04:23 AM
Personally speaking, I think varying foreplay is extremely important. When you decide to have sex, set some time aside to make it last...it should not be over in 10 minutes. In fact, foreplay can begin subtly at the dinner table or on the couch watching tv, etc.
Talking to each other and letting each know what the other wants is very important and a big part of a great relationship. She may be perfectly happy, but you need to discuss what you want and she needs to understand. She should be anxious to please you and you her. Sometimes, if you do not know, you just gotta try something and see. The more each of the 5 senses are involved, the better the experience for both and it should be remembered. Example...taste of favorite chocolate mint, smell of aftershave, perfume; soft music; touching; very soft lights etc. All these things have impact. (This may seem funny, but I dated a girl many years ago. She used to chew Spearmint gum. Today if I even smell Spearmint, all those wonderful memories are brought right back.)
In her mind, she should think that no one could ever do it better. And you the same. And your love needs to continue after sex which means not only holding her and whispering, but helping with chores and even shopping. It is all part of a successful relationship.
Lastly, we guys are influenced by videos to try unrealistic stuff on our mates. You never want to make her feel uncomfortable. If she is repulsed by a certain sexual technique...walk away from it and settle for what you have.
Posted Mon Apr 13, 2009 02:38 PM
If that seems unrealistic to you, why not just have sex somewhere you haven't ever done it before. If you don't have kids and the house is empty, fuck on the kitchen table!
Posted Mon Apr 13, 2009 06:47 PM
Posted Mon Apr 13, 2009 09:10 PM