Posted Sat Apr 18, 2009 12:59 PM
My only theory is that through your personality or your appearance, or both, your either inherently 'attractive' romantically/sexually as a person or your not and that nothing you can ever do will really change that. This also helps explain why peeps that have been in relationship and had partner in the past frequently seem to have no problems in finding somebody else whilst other single people continue to sit firmly on the shelf. Because if you've been in relationships etc before then there's obviously something 'about' you as a person, hence you will always be 'attractive' to other people in some way.
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Posted Sat Apr 18, 2009 04:30 PM
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Posted Sun Apr 19, 2009 06:19 PM
Often any hangups manafest themselves in your body language and are subconscious neon signs to the opposite sex... hold your head up and stand tall....
Here is some info I googled on flirting...
"The main problem guys have with flirting is that they relate it directly to sex. If I flirt with the girl for long enough, she’s more likely to have sex with me. Women, on the other hand, view flirting as nothing more than some harmless fun with no determined end-game"
"Keep contact to a minimum. Nothing is more powerful in the flirting world than well-timed and placed body contact. Touching a woman should be the same as using your Diesel Fuel For Life aftershave. Use With Caution! If you overdo it, you’ll appear overbearing and creepy. The best times to engage physical contact are when you’re standing together or when putting her coat on. When standing together you can lean in close and place your hand on the small of hear back, as if you were telling her a secret. Putting her coat on at the end of the evening allows you to lift her hair up over the back of her coat. Very subtle and sensual but she will notice.
Avoid over-confidence. If you’ve got all the right words and know exactly what to say to get her interested in you, there is a danger that she’ll take you as one of those slippery guys who have played women one too many times. She’ll be imagining you as the guy who flirts for sport and prefers the thrill of the chase to the catch. I’ve known a few of these cads myself and although he was successful with the women, it never amounted to more than a one night stand. That’s not being a man at all.
Don’t play it too cool. Some guys prefer to take the ‘mysterious and cool’ approach by appearing dark and brooding from afar. This is all well and good but be aware than you have a limited window of opportunity to talk to her before you turn into the weird stalker who won’t stop looking at her. Another downside to this method is the tendency to sit and watch as other guys attempt to talk to the object of your affection. Don’t sit and sulk in the corner giving the death stare to any man who dares talk to your woman. You’ll come across as jealous and lacking in self confidence. Both unbecoming character traits. Instead, enjoy your evening and when she is available, just head over and talk to her. It’s really not rocket science!
Don’t flirt with every girl in the bar. Women talk. With their friends and with strangers at the bar or in the toilet. Find a girl you’re interested in and focus on her. If it doesn’t work out then you might need to move on to the next place to find somebody else. Women will be extremely wary of a man who she has seen talking to other women in the club. You may be a masterful flirt, but you’re seeking an audience and in the end you’re only amusing yourself and are not really that interested in any of the women. They’ll pick up on it and before you know it you’ll be known as the annoying guy who sends dirty text messages an hour after meeting someone in a bar. "
Hope that helps
Posted Fri Apr 24, 2009 07:44 PM
Most people don't understand how hard it is for some of us guys..... I've even been asked by women before if I was gay. They don't understand why I'm single at my age!